My fiance is in his mid 60s. I'm 10 years younger. He has a sharp tongue. When under stress, he will bark an order at me, quick and razor sharp. It hurts my feelings. He tends to give me lots of instructions on doing things around the house. He also has an annoying habit of driving from the passenger's seat. One night while in bed, I touched him and he went off saying he was almost asleep and I woke him up. I didn't know. He was super stressed from an email he got earlier. This incident kept me up all night. I was so hurt. In the morning he apologized, admitted he was out of character. My fiance is usually a funny, generous, and compassionate person. He recently underwent a kidney transplant and has been humbled by this life saving experience. But he has a difficult time processing his stress and controlling his tone when upset or feeling really stressed. How can I begin the conversation with him so that he remembers I'm not the enemy and we're on the same team? I don't like his sharp tone. It's too hurtful. Can't do it anymore. Tomorrow is Father's Day. I want the day to go well, and not walk on egg shells. Words really do cut and hurt for a long time, even after the apology and forgiveness is given. Still hurts. Thank you.