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As some of you well know, I'm a HD person (though technically LD compared to my wife), my wife is errr... ID... INSANE DRIVE. Thankfully we're doing MC now, but it seems that some others also have our problems - the man being not interested when sex comes too easy or becomes expected etc etc...
First of all, PLEASE get it out of your head that men are walking hardons! We aren't! Many of us have our own set of buttons that have to be pushed just like you ladies! We are human beings too!
Second, you have to understand that it's not rejection so please don't take it like that. There are times when I come home and I'm horny as hell but when there's no tease, no romance, no fun with my wife expecting sex... I get soft straight away and by that time I end up deciding to do other sh-t.
She keeps herself looking great, works out, knows how to dress, how to walk, how to move, and damn I LOVE her body, especially her smooth long legs that gets me everytime she teases me with them. BUT... you can be just like my wife but all that can and WILL be wasted if you accidently hit the "turn off" button. We don't want that, you don't want that, so please learn!
Now, we'll get to the fun part; how to initiate with your man without turning him off. You can't initiate with a man like how a man initiates with a woman. A bit of aggressiveness is fine during sex but prior to that, many men aren't turned on that way.
Sometimes you get lucky, and there are men out there who LOVE to be taken by an aggressive woman, but for others... NOPE!
What do we want? We want the TEASE, the ROMANCE, the ANTICIPATION, the CHALLENGE. Many men are not seduced by aggressiveness, but are seduced by your charm, feminine wiles, and how you move, how you pose, what you show him and what you don't show him - the tease.
Sexy flirting at times is all you need, other times you need to be creative and do something extravagant. My wife used to be really good at it too, she comes out of the shower and even though I see her body everyday sometimes she still tries and hides the view with her towel, changes with her back turned to me knowing I'm watching, letting me see her smooth back but nothing else, of course my willy will be telling me "DAMN IT! TAKE HER NOW!!!", or hell one of her best teases...
Years ago... I came home, she wore nothing but a long T-shirt, nothing underneath and was cooking dinner. I could not resist lifting up her shirt, but she resisted, told me to calm down as she's trying to cook so ok... then she sat down on our glass table, with her legs crossed, and while we were having dinner, she kept crossing her freakin legs over giving me split second glimpses of her down there. I lost my fking head and couldn't take it anymore, I pulled her out of her chair, threw her on my shoulder and carried her upstairs with her playfully telling me no! And saying the food is going to get cold! :rofl: TOO LATE! Was really wild passionate sex which she really enjoyed - and of course she deserved it, it was a great tease!
Playing hard to get is not about simply just withdrawing. It's about giving them something, then taking it back, giving a little more, then taking it back. Like sticking a rabbit on a pole and having the greyhound run around the course for it - same principle. And yes it can be HARD to say no when you want it so much but you have to be confident in your ability to turn him on to the point he REALLY needs to get off - that way even when you say no you KNOW you're going to get it anyway!
And sometimes you don't even need all this, sometimes when we're watching a movie together on our bed late at night she fondles me, plays with me down there, just tells me she wants to touch it, loves the look of it - those are really TURN ON words. But not expecting sex, just to play... yet this "play" turns me on enough I end up HAVING to fk her brains out. I also love to tease my wife, and she used to be so good at it too with me... *sighs*
Please don't make the same mistakes as my wife, or many men in married life. Romance and seduction does NOT end in marriage, and it should never end.
First of all, PLEASE get it out of your head that men are walking hardons! We aren't! Many of us have our own set of buttons that have to be pushed just like you ladies! We are human beings too!
Second, you have to understand that it's not rejection so please don't take it like that. There are times when I come home and I'm horny as hell but when there's no tease, no romance, no fun with my wife expecting sex... I get soft straight away and by that time I end up deciding to do other sh-t.
She keeps herself looking great, works out, knows how to dress, how to walk, how to move, and damn I LOVE her body, especially her smooth long legs that gets me everytime she teases me with them. BUT... you can be just like my wife but all that can and WILL be wasted if you accidently hit the "turn off" button. We don't want that, you don't want that, so please learn!
Now, we'll get to the fun part; how to initiate with your man without turning him off. You can't initiate with a man like how a man initiates with a woman. A bit of aggressiveness is fine during sex but prior to that, many men aren't turned on that way.
Sometimes you get lucky, and there are men out there who LOVE to be taken by an aggressive woman, but for others... NOPE!
What do we want? We want the TEASE, the ROMANCE, the ANTICIPATION, the CHALLENGE. Many men are not seduced by aggressiveness, but are seduced by your charm, feminine wiles, and how you move, how you pose, what you show him and what you don't show him - the tease.
Sexy flirting at times is all you need, other times you need to be creative and do something extravagant. My wife used to be really good at it too, she comes out of the shower and even though I see her body everyday sometimes she still tries and hides the view with her towel, changes with her back turned to me knowing I'm watching, letting me see her smooth back but nothing else, of course my willy will be telling me "DAMN IT! TAKE HER NOW!!!", or hell one of her best teases...
Years ago... I came home, she wore nothing but a long T-shirt, nothing underneath and was cooking dinner. I could not resist lifting up her shirt, but she resisted, told me to calm down as she's trying to cook so ok... then she sat down on our glass table, with her legs crossed, and while we were having dinner, she kept crossing her freakin legs over giving me split second glimpses of her down there. I lost my fking head and couldn't take it anymore, I pulled her out of her chair, threw her on my shoulder and carried her upstairs with her playfully telling me no! And saying the food is going to get cold! :rofl: TOO LATE! Was really wild passionate sex which she really enjoyed - and of course she deserved it, it was a great tease!
Playing hard to get is not about simply just withdrawing. It's about giving them something, then taking it back, giving a little more, then taking it back. Like sticking a rabbit on a pole and having the greyhound run around the course for it - same principle. And yes it can be HARD to say no when you want it so much but you have to be confident in your ability to turn him on to the point he REALLY needs to get off - that way even when you say no you KNOW you're going to get it anyway!
And sometimes you don't even need all this, sometimes when we're watching a movie together on our bed late at night she fondles me, plays with me down there, just tells me she wants to touch it, loves the look of it - those are really TURN ON words. But not expecting sex, just to play... yet this "play" turns me on enough I end up HAVING to fk her brains out. I also love to tease my wife, and she used to be so good at it too with me... *sighs*
Please don't make the same mistakes as my wife, or many men in married life. Romance and seduction does NOT end in marriage, and it should never end.