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My wife is the type who likes me to read her mind, her saying things about my tempo, angle of approach, depth, anything is out of the question as that is a turn off. So I have learned to read her mind by reading her body language and vitals. The other benefit of this for me is by focusing on her I can extend my orgasm basically indefinitely, after she has 4-5 orgasms she needs a break and her body language coming out of her break tells me if we are going for 4-5 more or if it's my turn. I don't have to read her response as much anymore because I know exactly how to get her off but then you have the issue that you don't want it to be mechanical so I have to mix it up kind of like foreplay during intercourse and do somethings I know turn her on but wont necessarily get her to orgasm.

For me you learn various techniques and stuff but what your partner is in the mood for may be different from time to time so learning to read their response is key. One thing I have learned is if what you're doing has her well on her way to a good orgasm and you stop doing that, they don't like that.

After nearly 30 years of having sex with my wife I would say it has only been the past 2-3 years that I can give her an orgasm during intercourse at will. Before that it was luck or she was so horny anything would have got her off.
 

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Men, talk to the women you鈥檙e with. Make them feel safe, if you鈥檙e not scared to spend 45 minutes down town with your mouth aching tell them that. Tell her not to worry, that you won鈥檛 stop until she gets where she wants to be. And let your ego鈥檚 go, if you鈥檙e not scared or too weak of a man to take direction, make her understand that there are no wrong requests, encourage her to be open.
This ^^^^^^^^^!
Way better than consulting google.
 

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My wife is the type who likes me to read her mind, her saying things about my tempo, angle of approach, depth, anything is out of the question as that is a turn off. So I have learned to read her mind by reading her body language and vitals. The other benefit of this for me is by focusing on her I can extend my orgasm basically indefinitely, after she has 4-5 orgasms she needs a break and her body language coming out of her break tells me if we are going for 4-5 more or if it's my turn. I don't have to read her response as much anymore because I know exactly how to get her off but then you have the issue that you don't want it to be mechanical so I have to mix it up kind of like foreplay during intercourse and do somethings I know turn her on but wont necessarily get her to orgasm.

For me you learn various techniques and stuff but what your partner is in the mood for may be different from time to time so learning to read their response is key. One thing I have learned is if what you're doing has her well on her way to a good orgasm and you stop doing that, they don't like that.

After nearly 30 years of having sex with my wife I would say it has only been the past 2-3 years that I can give her an orgasm during intercourse at will. Before that it was luck or she was so horny anything would have got her off.

This too is super sexy. Not realistic for every male, but one partner I had out of the three in total could and would intentionally listen to every breath, every whimper and pay attention to every squirm.

It was pretty amazing.
 
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