[Julie's Husband]

It's dangerous to generalize. Particularly with second hand (as the male partner) inference.

In the past I asked my wife how to please her and her answer was "men know". Well, since I had limited experience I damned well did not know. The result was my trying everything I could think of, probably dragging the session out far past what she needed.

The one time she did give me instructions was when she wanted to have simultaneous orgasms.

 

[Julie's Husband]

It’s dangerous to generalize, but it’s unhelpful to say “it depends” or “every woman is different.” You need a starting point, a playbook.

I disagree. That is making assumptions from the get go.

 

[Julie's Husband]

She maybe said that because as the banned one wrote, women don’t know themselves. A skilled male can bring them along, but even then they have no idea how he accomplished it, just that they really enjoyed it.

The banned one advised the man she was posting to “google” technique. What did people do before google and internet existed? I guess lotta unhappy females back few decades ago.

Her former fiance was probably knowledgeable as my wife felt he was a constant womanizer. Hence "former" fiance. But I dunno that she ever slept with a man who had not been around a bit other than me.

Women are intelligent enough to know what is going on if they want to pay attention. Some women may not be of a mind to check things out. We know of at least one woman who had no orgasms until she got it on with a much younger gent at a gym when she was in her 40s.

Other women are pretty much into it. The women who bedded me before I focused on my wife to be knew exactly what they wanted. One basically used me for a sex toy, one was into recreational sex and the other was sussing out what I could do for her. The problem is that they did not teach me anything that would be useful with my wife other than plumbing.