I'm thinking running her a bath then offering to wash her would be sexyWell she loves to get a good massage. She is always worried about her hygiene. So if she showered first thing in the morning, sex that night could be out of the question. So maybe running her a bath would really get things going.
totally agreed my w had told me that her friends don't like to have sex with their hubby because he don't bathe everyday. (come on basic hygiene!)good hygiene helps
Surely there's a difference between overt manipulation and just doing what is necessary to get your partner in the mood.Would not it be GREAT if we did not have to manipulate other people to get what we want???
OK - the premise is that we should manipulate each other to accomplish our wants and needs..... OK, then why not prostitution - pay the fee, get the service - no manipulation there. Ah, but marriage is not prostitution...
Sure, you can massage, buy stuff, say stuff, etc.... but if it is all to manipulate another person to do what you want then .... maybe you need to rethink the situation.
If she only does stuff (says stuff) 'cause you made it happen then what kind of relationship do you really have???