Thank you for very supportive words! I do realize that at this moment, I am definitely not ready for new relationship, and have to put things in order in my own head yet, but that time may come sometimes in the future.I have been in the divorce business for a very long time. I have seen a number of people that are really snake bit about getting out there again after a prolonged marriage and some significant bumps along the way. In short, there is a life out there. As I said there is a life out there. I have had many women who have ended their marriages in their 50s and 60s. Many of those women thought that life alone would be superior to life with their mates at the time. A great many have gone on to some good relationships. I have a 60ish professional who has been my client forever. She was through the wringer with her ex. He was to be polite, garbage. We got her unhitched. She flourished as a single professional woman. Had some incredible experiences. Then, she decided life alone in her golden years, was not really attractive. We recommended an introduction service specializing in older adults. She met a senior accountant. I really like him. He is retired and he does her taxes then gives them to me to be input. It gets funny because him and I can go off to some place theoretical in accounting and leave her wondering what the devil we are talking about, especially we start talking short form, which can be a completely different language. There is a world out there for divorced people. Do not let the ones that choose to cloister themselves after a failed marriage tell you that it is all over. It aint over til it is over.