I think my husband would benefit from this book.
My problem is as follows:
-I don't want him to think I'm unhappy in our marriage. I'm not, I think it could use improvement, but I'm happy in it.
The book has a lot of testimonies of men who have a marriage on the brink of disaster until the men go through the NMMNG program, after which point they either i)divorce, or ii)have the healthy marriage they wanted.
I don't want him to think that I'm advising him to read this book because I think our marriage is on the brink of disaster.
-I don't want to make his already low self esteem (hence the book) lower by giving him what will likely seem to be a huge criticism.
-I'm nervous about it because I once read another self-help book and told him how much I enjoyed it, so he read it too, and it really upset him. (So you have these needs but think I'm like that? Unacceptable!) We were at odds for a good week, afterwards.
Posting in general because I'm hoping to hear both men's and women's perspectives on this.
Women's perspectives because many women have a good nack for working with men's egos while still getting the point across (something I'm personally terrible at)
Men's perspectives because they probably have a good insight into my husband's side.
Thanks in advance for any thoughts/suggestions!
Athena
My problem is as follows:
-I don't want him to think I'm unhappy in our marriage. I'm not, I think it could use improvement, but I'm happy in it.
The book has a lot of testimonies of men who have a marriage on the brink of disaster until the men go through the NMMNG program, after which point they either i)divorce, or ii)have the healthy marriage they wanted.
I don't want him to think that I'm advising him to read this book because I think our marriage is on the brink of disaster.
-I don't want to make his already low self esteem (hence the book) lower by giving him what will likely seem to be a huge criticism.
-I'm nervous about it because I once read another self-help book and told him how much I enjoyed it, so he read it too, and it really upset him. (So you have these needs but think I'm like that? Unacceptable!) We were at odds for a good week, afterwards.
Posting in general because I'm hoping to hear both men's and women's perspectives on this.
Women's perspectives because many women have a good nack for working with men's egos while still getting the point across (something I'm personally terrible at)
Men's perspectives because they probably have a good insight into my husband's side.
Thanks in advance for any thoughts/suggestions!
Athena