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Robert and I have been together for almost eight years, we have had an incredible relationship, full of love and happiness and I can honestly say he is the love of my life.
This July he got a job offer on the other side of the country. It was in his field, good money, and even better experience. We both agreed he had to take it. I however could not join him, as my third year was starting soon, and there wasn't a school to transfer to.
Long distance was going fine, we had done it before and constant phone calls, skype calls, texting, exchanging emails and pictures ect. make it manageable.
I am currently visiting him, and during my visit it came to light he has been talking sexually online and through texting to another woman. Unfortunately I have caught him doing this before, earlier this year when we were living in different towns for school.
Here is the kicker, same girl both times. They were in the same program in college and I guess their attraction was never resolved.
Yet this time was different, he stopped on his own and told me that he had. Told me he realized how important I am to him, that he wants us to work, wants to spend his life with me, and is done with all the bull****. I believe he is sincere, but am so afraid to get hurt again. Last time I caught him because I was insecure and snooping, He stopped because I gave him no choice, not because he wanted to. I truly believe that being so far away from me put his feelings and actions into perspective and he is ready to be faithful.
I just don't know how to forgive. I gave into my temptation to go through his facebook and found out they had been having cam sessions, something he told me had happened but said they were only talking. their messages to each other made it clear it was not just talking. I know he only lied to save me from hurting more, but I feel like if he isn't being honest about the details, how can I believe he is really ready to recommit.
Any advice on how to move forward and repair my relationship would be greatly appreciated.
Sorry for the novel
This July he got a job offer on the other side of the country. It was in his field, good money, and even better experience. We both agreed he had to take it. I however could not join him, as my third year was starting soon, and there wasn't a school to transfer to.
Long distance was going fine, we had done it before and constant phone calls, skype calls, texting, exchanging emails and pictures ect. make it manageable.
I am currently visiting him, and during my visit it came to light he has been talking sexually online and through texting to another woman. Unfortunately I have caught him doing this before, earlier this year when we were living in different towns for school.
Here is the kicker, same girl both times. They were in the same program in college and I guess their attraction was never resolved.
Yet this time was different, he stopped on his own and told me that he had. Told me he realized how important I am to him, that he wants us to work, wants to spend his life with me, and is done with all the bull****. I believe he is sincere, but am so afraid to get hurt again. Last time I caught him because I was insecure and snooping, He stopped because I gave him no choice, not because he wanted to. I truly believe that being so far away from me put his feelings and actions into perspective and he is ready to be faithful.
I just don't know how to forgive. I gave into my temptation to go through his facebook and found out they had been having cam sessions, something he told me had happened but said they were only talking. their messages to each other made it clear it was not just talking. I know he only lied to save me from hurting more, but I feel like if he isn't being honest about the details, how can I believe he is really ready to recommit.
Any advice on how to move forward and repair my relationship would be greatly appreciated.
Sorry for the novel