Testosterone my man, try it. You'll like it.Not really the response I was after, but I figured I'd see a couple of them. And I understand them completely. Trust me - I thought about the same thing. How could I be ready to just forgive and move on? It's because I still love my wife. I still have a hope that we can move past this.
As for the other guy - he did regret it afterwards (like I said, I had seen the convos). It was a heat of the moment thing.
Which is why I'm willing to forgive. Yes - she says she didn't regret it at the time but that was immediately afterwards. I don't know how she's feeling now about it. It only happened the once (due to work schedules they haven't been able to get back together).
Until you pull your testicles out of your wife's purse and grow a spine, I have nothing for you because, though your wife and her boyfriend are being vile, backstabbing cheaters, you are making yourself too attractive a target for it.
She can pretty much do whatever she wants and she apparently knows it being with you.
I'll be forever amazed at men like you, who have their wives disrespecting them, treating them like garbage and rewriting history along with having sex with their boyfriends and not only enjoying it but feeling no regret at all about it and disrespecting you further by talking to her friends about it.
Your children are being given terrible templates that will impact their adult lives by seeing a disrespectful, skank of a mom walking all over their weak, pushover dad.
You might want to try reading "No More Mr. Nice Guy" but aside from that, I don't think you have a prayer.