I am 40 years old, been with my boyfriend for 1 year, living together for 9 months, and have been wondering when the "M" word would come up. I would like to bring the subject up but I don't want to look too obvious. He was married for 4 years and has been divorced for 2 years. I was married for 8 years and have been divorced for 9 years. I feel that if we made the step to move in together that marriage is the next step. I would like to find out how he feels, as well.
I'm not sure if either one of you drink, but if you do... Casually bring it up after a couple drinks? Go out and get an ad from a jewelry store and circle an engagment ring.
In all reality, you should be able to bring up any subject. Communication is so very important when it comes to a relationship. You could ask him what are his views on getting remarried in the future.
I wish you the best of luck. My husband also made it very clear he was ready for marriage while dating and that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me. I also did not move in with him until we were married. He asked me several times to move in his house while we were dating. Posted via Mobile Device
At 40 years old, I don't think you really need to be subtle.
However, hindsight is 20/20 but the best thing to have done would have been NOT to move in together until you were at least engaged. Otherwise, where is the incentive to get married?
Do you own or rent? If you rent, maybe if it is a yearly lease and coming up for renewal, you can use that as a deadline of sorts? Otherwise, you could be having this same conversation years from now.
Have you discussed the topic of remarriage? He may not plan on marrying again if you haven't breached the topic. You moved in rather quickly after dating, so there might have been a lot of assumptions made on both of your parts. Openness and being able to communicate this sort of thing is really important in a long lasting, loving, marriage. I agree that maybe this lease end time would be a good time to bring it up.
I am 40 years old, been with my boyfriend for 1 year, living together for 9 months, and have been wondering when the "M" word would come up. I would like to bring the subject up but I don't want to look too obvious.
Do not bring up the "m" word at all. Trust me on this. Let HIM make that move, and if he doesn't at the 2 year mark of living together, it might be time for you to move on, or just being happy living with him. The next step is just a piece of paper at this point anyway. You've already got the man!
do not bring up the "m" word at all. Trust me on this. Let him make that move, and if he doesn't at the 2 year mark of living together, it might be time for you to move on, or just being happy living with him. The next step is just a piece of paper at this point anyway. You've already got the man! :d
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