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Why ask? The answers are what others need/want. The only thing that should be important is what you need.

By 25 years of marriage we had zero PIV as my wife has physical issues. On the other hand I am a highly sexed individual and have multiple orgasms. I am not satisfied with the lack of PIV, but that is just fact, not an issue.
 

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Health permitting, once daily with the occasional extra inning.

Sometimes I get distracted by shiny research stuff and she gets ridiculously frisky a couple times a week if I'm not taking care of business.馃檪
Ok, I鈥檓 not a baseball expert, but an inning is 1/9 of a game, what does that extra 1/9 of sex entail? :unsure:馃槣
 

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We have been married for 20+ years and feel we are "fairly" active in our sex lives, but how do we know? Would you be willing to share your weekly - monthly number? We try 1 "full" night session....(everything is on the table), 1 quick session and a morning (weekend) fun session where we have some fun...could be intense and full, could be quick, could be oral or just a solo finish.... we often ask ourselves are we active like others?
We have been together 17 years...5 kids. Early years 3 to 4 tines a week.. now once or twice a week. My husband would like 3 to 4 a week..i could go with once a month. My drive has been at rock bottom since I turned 30. Been to the doctor a couple times for medications...nothing has helped. It's very enjoyable when we do..I just have no need for it.
 

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We have been together 17 years...5 kids. Early years 3 to 4 tines a week.. now once or twice a week. My husband would like 3 to 4 a week..i could go with once a month. My drive has been at rock bottom since I turned 30. Been to the doctor a couple times for medications...nothing has helped. It's very enjoyable when we do..I just have no need for it.
Could the lack of desire be because you are a narcissist's wife? That doesn't sound like a very attractive trait.
 

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Both 59 married 36 years 2-3 times per week....if on vacation.....daily. What is it about women and being on vacation? Ladies chime in.
 

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We have been married for 20+ years and feel we are "fairly" active in our sex lives, but how do we know? Would you be willing to share your weekly - monthly number? We try 1 "full" night session....(everything is on the table), 1 quick session and a morning (weekend) fun session where we have some fun...could be intense and full, could be quick, could be oral or just a solo finish.... we often ask ourselves are we active like others?
How long is a story? Seriously, why do you care if you are like others?

No doubt you are exactly like some others, and very unlike some or many. Everything has a bell shaped curve with most in th middle and a few on either extreme. Just check the threads on here, some married couples havent been intimate in decades. Some hit it multiple times every day. Somewhere saw an 鈥渁verage鈥 was several encounters a week.

What is important is if both of you are happy. If so, consider yourselves blessed.
 

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Btw, since u asked:

Now Mid 70s, married 56. Morning n afternoon most days. Early marriage much more. Most of marriage a few encounters a week. Work, kids, business travel, illness(s). Life changes, it doesnt stand still.
 

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Both 59 married 36 years 2-3 times per week....if on vacation.....daily. What is it about women and being on vacation? Ladies chime in.
I don't know about other women so..... I can say for a long time I had trouble with the list in my head. It doesn't feel very sexy when you are in bed thinking about
needing to get your MIL an appointment with a nephologist
If you DD registered for orientation for college
If you will have time to get your evaluation product into your boss by tomorrow afternoon
Doing the dishes when you get up because you went to bed without doing them
Needing to plant a garden and what will you plant this late in the season
Shuffling the payment for the house due to paying for Assisted living...

Add about 20 other things.....

I know many women have trouble getting out of their head and that doesn't even count insecurities about their husband watching porn, being older, or fat or if you might smell or are you being sexy enough or animated enough, loud enough aggressive enough, passive enough, submissive enough..........

So on vacation some of that list tends to fall away and your spouse can't annoy you by whatever they typically do to annoy you like leave dishes in the living room cause you aren't at home.

ETA: one of my love languages is Time Together which also is greatly increased doing pleasant things on vacation.
 

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It's the opposite in my marriage. I'm the one who wants it at least once a day while on vacation or even just out of the house for the night, but my wife's drive tanks. Oh well.
 
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