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How often do you cry?

  • Multiple times a week

    Votes: 6 16.2%
  • About once a week or a little less

    Votes: 6 16.2%
  • About once a month

    Votes: 7 18.9%
  • Every few months

    Votes: 18 48.6%
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Is there really any way to measure what's normal when it comes to crying? People cry from all kinds of things.

Are you talking a few glistening tears or straight up sobbing with hiccups and the whole nine?

I'd say if you're sobbing daily maybe you should talk to someone about that. If you're the softy who gets choked up while watching a touching movie I'd say you're doing ok and don't have anything to worry about.

For me,I'm a stress and frustration crier. When I get so frustrated and feeling beat down I will find a private space and cry it out. Happens at least once a week mostly from work issues.
 

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Good point. I don't mean crying while watching movies. I mean crying because you are upset about something. I mean at least a few tears, but it doesn't have to be full out sobbing.
 

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I hardly ever cry. I hate to cry!!!!! Makes my eyes puffy and smears my eye liner...

I went through a terribly stressful 2 years a short time ago. Towards the end, last 12 months or so, I couldn't cry! During that time I had to put my dog down and was understandably terribly upset, but I could not cry. It was so strange....
 

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I cry and get choked up when I watch a sad or touching movie, or if a loved dies in our family. If when my hubby and I have a fight, I will cry out of anger and frustration.
 

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I think that also depends on what the something is.

For me,if I'm upset enough to shed tears about my relationship more than once every few months,something is wrong and needs to change asap.That would tell me my frustration level is way too high and things need to be addressed.

What do you feel is normal? Are you upset about something regularly and crying bc of it?
 

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During most of my marriage I cried anywhere from once a week to once every couple of months. During the last year of my marriage, it was more like a few times a week to daily.

Since my divorce? Three times in 5 months. And two of those were a direct result of extreme frustration with my idiot ex-husband, while the other was from laughing so hard with my best friend that I nearly wet myself.
 

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?.., while the other was from laughing so hard with my best friend that I nearly wet myself.
That is the BEST! I have two friend like that. Must remember the Depends next time we get together!
 
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My wife cries about every other day and has been for the 8 months or so that we've been married. Sometimes it's because of me, sometimes it's not. I am trying to be as understanding and loving as possible.

This morning she couldn't find her work pants and she started crying and hyperventilating. I held for a while and we breathed deeply together, but I don't think that was normal at all. Then that got me thinking about how often she cries, which is why I started this topic, just to see if this is abnormal.
 

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Not a woman, but post a link to your other thread. IMHO, your wife is not "emotionally normal", from what I recall.

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When appropriate...meaning, situations that nobody can do anything about, that are heartbreaking. Once I have the cry, I don't need to repeat it. I get over the situation, as it can't be remedied or is now water under the bridge, and carry on.

If it's something that I can do something about, then I don't cry. It's possible to take deep breaths and gather oneself together without crying, or panicking.

With the wife who cries because she can't find her pants, it's possible she has some kind of biological cross-wiring...crying because of being frustrated or panicked (going to be late for work...) usually crying would be the result of the consequence (being late for work, being fired...) but in her case the crying comes as a result of thinking about the consequences of the worst case scenario. Which is made even more probable by the crying...because crying doesn't help anyone find anything, except maybe making a box of tissues appear. Don't enable her, whatever you do. Just calmly state that it's not your problem (even if her being out of a job will be) and step away from the situation...if it doesn't involve you in the first place.
 

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:) I always feel so much better once I get it out. I think clearer and my focus is sharper. Kind of like pulling the plug on poison in your mind and letting it all go.

I'll never be someone who judges people for crying to release tension.Thankful to not have any people in my life that have a problem with a person going off by themselves to shed a few tears til they feel more centered.
 

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:) I always feel so much better once I get it out. I think clearer and my focus is sharper. Kind of like pulling the plug on poison in your mind and letting it all go.

I'll never be someone who judges people for crying to release tension.Thankful to not have any people in my life that have a problem with a person going off by themselves to shed a few tears til they feel more centered.
I feel a lot better after a good cry too.

I don't cry in front of people, I'm pretty emotionless around others. But I often cry alone, to release stress and frustration like you. It really helps!

I'm feeling pretty down right now, maybe it's time for a good cry. lol
 

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I hate crying, it gives me a headache. I cry only if there is a death in the family or some sort of major problem, less than once a year would be my guess.

Not counting sad movies:)
 

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I"m not a crier...by any means.
I think the last time I really cried is when my sheltie died in '07. She was put to sleep in my arms....and boy....did I ever ball my eyes out.

When I do cry.....I cry alone.
When I"m weepy eyed....on goes the sunglasses.
 

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I'm not someone who cries regularly. Sure I cry when loved ones pass away or when a beloved pet died of cancer, but I'm not a stress or frustration crier. When a pet I had for many years died last year, I cried at work when I told my boss. That was very unusual for me. I wasn't embarassed though. I showed up to work the day after my pet had been put down and I was still upset about the whole experience. In general, I don't feel comfortable crying around others. It probably has to do with my upbringing. I honestly can't remember my parents crying over anything other than maybe the death of a parent.
 

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I'm a big time boo hooer.

I cry when i'm sad and when I really mad and when I'm laughing so hard it makes me cry, sometime I cry with pride for my kids, i cry at weddings and funerals, i cry when people I love/care about cry (not sure why that happens), I even lost a job once because NO-ONE needs a crying nurse apparently!!! Who figured?

but i have never cried because i lost a 'thing' .... not since i was a little kid.

I'd say your wife needs to learning some coping mechanisms for her crying... and as loving and sweet as you are being...you're possibly enabling the situation somewhat. I learnt to control my breathing... and in turn i can control my tears...sounds similar in some ways to your wife.
 

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I don't see a problem with being moved to tears from joy or laughter. That's pretty awesome if you get that excited about something haha. My wife never cries from being too happy though, it's always anxiety or hurt. I completely forgot people cry for other reasons lol
 
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