I left our home 7 weeks ago. He was addicted to sedatives and was verbally and emotionally abusive. He has now gotten off the meds, except for one at bedtime. Before I left he yelled at me constantly that I was just waiting for him to die, and that I would be happy when he was dead. He also would run me down behind my back to our son, who is 20. He claims he has seen the light and will never repeat these behaviors. How long should a person wait to ensure that a person has changed? He had a PA that ended 3 years ago that lasted 3 years. That and the verbal abuse drove me over the edge and I left.