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This is inspired by @southbound 's thread.

Yes, I'm passing the buck a bit, but I'm looking properly abashed while doing it 🙄.

How many women would/will never perform fellatio on a man, ever, and why not?

What keeps you from doing so in your present relationship, that if is for outside reasons, if changed, would you give enthusiastic oral?

There were a lot of side bar almost tangential discussions re @southbound 's thread.

So I thought I'd cast this out there. If in the wrong section, mods pls move it at will, tx.

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I do go down on my husband and occasionally to completion. I do it more now than earlier in the relationship. So I don't know if I count.

I can say very simply... What's in it for me? I like pleasing my husband but there are plenty of ways to please him that involve pleasure for me too. I'm lucky because he enjoys PIV to oral. He lasts too long with oral like 20 minutes or more and his size versus my mouth just doesn't work well. Just as he's about to cum ( of course just about seems to means could be forever left) he swells which makes it really uncomfortable and hard not to scrap.

But the craziest thing I hear on this forum is if she doesn't want to have sex she could at least give me a blow job? Really? A quickie is easier than a blow job. And at least even if I don't get an orgasm I at least get some good feelings and take alot less effort than a blow job?

How many times do men go down on women and then walk off without getting anything themself? And do it over and over again?

I prefer sex to be pleasurable for both.

So what do you like oral for so much. It seems like most times oral is depicted as a power trip or something demeaning. Why is it so important to some men?
 

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Its not my favourite thing but its not an issue for us because my husband much prefers PIV to oral anyway. Also there is a LOT that you can do with your hands.:smile2:

As to why? The same reason that people prefer anything over something else in life, its a preference. Like I prefer some foods to others. No particular reason, but I do think that women have a perfectly good vagina that is specifically designed for the penis in sex, whereas a mouth isn't designed to stretch etc.
 

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And oral should be very reciprocal and even if the guy doesn't get a bi, it shouldn't preclude him from doing oral on her if that's one if her favorite ways to reach orgasm.

And for me, I just like doing it, to two to four Os for her. I think it's a blast.
 

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all the women i've ever been with (except one; my brief sexless marriage) and that does not mean very many, performed oral without me asking for it.

come to think of it, I don't think i've ever asked a woman for oral. they just seem to like it.

my current wife will do on her own as a warm up.

i will not ask. but when they like, its' welcome.

why do i not ask? because it just seems really weird. can't imagine why they would want to do it, but they do.
 

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No problem at all doing it. Did with many guys. Never met a guy that didn't like it except for my husband! So I will probably never ever do it again.
 

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I kept back a little, waiting to see about women responding.

I love giving oral and making love to a woman's entire body with my mouth.

I wouldn't be with a woman who didn't realize that aspect of what a mouth was designed to do.
To be honest the mouth wasn't actually designed for sex, the genitals were. Some choose to use them for that and that's fine, but you only have to look at the mouth to see that unlike the vagina its not the right design for oral sex. Same with the anus. The muscles in the anus all go the wrong way for taking something in, they are designed for expelling which is why some people get damaged though frequent anal sex and later in life have problems with leakage.
 

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To be honest the mouth wasn't actually designed for sex, the genitals were. Some choose to use them for that and that's fine, but you only have to look at the mouth to see that unlike the vagina its not the right design for oral sex. Same with the anus. The muscles in the anus all go the wrong way for taking something in, they are designed for expelling which is why some people get damaged though frequent anal sex and later in life have problems with leakage.
The mouth was designed for many things and kissing, caressing and oral sex are among them.

You are talking with an established theologian with easy access to the original Hebrew and Greek.

I have had to correct more than one minister about the meaning of certain scriptures.

The Bible is pretty descriptive about sex in several places.
 

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Its not my favourite thing but its not an issue for us because my husband much prefers PIV to oral anyway. Also there is a LOT that you can do with your hands.:smile2:

As to why? The same reason that people prefer anything over something else in life, its a preference. Like I prefer some foods to others. No particular reason, but I do think that women have a perfectly good vagina that is specifically designed for the penis in sex, whereas a mouth isn't designed to stretch etc.

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The mouth was designed for many things and kissing, caressing and oral sex are among them.

You are talking with an established theologian with easy access to the original Hebrew and Greek.

I have had to correct more than one minister about the meaning of certain scriptures.

The Bible is pretty descriptive about sex in several places.
I am well aware of sing of songs. My husband has studied it among many other parts of the Bible.
 

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Some people (both men and women) don't like giving or receiving oral sex. I've had partners who felt that way and just accepted that it was something we didn't do - all relationships involve compromise.

There's no need to invoke unscientific design or theology to justify their dislike of oral sex. That they don't want to do it is good enough for me.

Personally, I feel they're missing out on something that can be pleasurable and has no downside, but that's their choice. Surely, nobody should be pressured into doing something that makes them feel uncomfortable.
 

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I do go down on my husband and occasionally to completion. I do it more now than earlier in the relationship. So I don't know if I count.

I can say very simply... What's in it for me? I like pleasing my husband but there are plenty of ways to please him that involve pleasure for me too. I'm lucky because he enjoys PIV to oral. He lasts too long with oral like 20 minutes or more and his size versus my mouth just doesn't work well. Just as he's about to cum ( of course just about seems to means could be forever left) he swells which makes it really uncomfortable and hard not to scrap.
For me going down on my wife was easily the most erotic thing I did with my wife. Of course since she was female I didn't really have to worry about size issues.

But the craziest thing I hear on this forum is if she doesn't want to have sex she could at least give me a blow job? Really? A quickie is easier than a blow job. And at least even if I don't get an orgasm I at least get some good feelings and take alot less effort than a blow job?
If she's not aroused at all sex could lack any of the pleasurable feeling, could be uncomfortable, or even hurt. Some women have scar tissue caused by pregnancy complications or other medical problems that make PIV sex painful. Hands and mouths don't have that limitation.

How many times do men go down on women and then walk off without getting anything themself? And do it over and over again?

I prefer sex to be pleasurable for both.

So what do you like oral for so much. It seems like most times oral is depicted as a power trip or something demeaning. Why is it so important to some men?
My ex rarely achieved orgasm with PIV sex and always did with oral. During the last few years of our marriage she rarely liked me enough to want sex but would receive oral at least somewhat regularly and I could get that feeling of closeness and connection without asking for something she wouldn't want to do and getting turned down. I would have done it as often as she wanted to be honest.

In my limited experience sex often involves a certain amount of physical and mental calculus of delaying orgasm for yourself and paying attention to the cues that she is giving consciously and unconsciously about what you are doing *this time* that she likes or not. Receiving oral reduces the mental load a ton while likely ending in an orgasm. Giving oral eliminates the need to pay attention to my own body while being *almost* as much fun.
 

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If she's not aroused at all sex could lack any of the pleasurable feeling, could be uncomfortable, or even hurt. Some women have scar tissue caused by pregnancy complications or other medical problems that make PIV sex painful. Hands and mouths don't have that limitation.

Mouths can definitely get painful and have limitations.
I think I'm confused about the actual thread. It first talks about BJ's and semen, ejectulation and now it's evolved to all oral contact. Not that it matters but I was specifically saying that Oral to completion shouldn't and doesn't mean everything. I do think oral stimulation is on frequent tap. But I would also say you can be a lot of fun without it.
 

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Well... in my first marriage I totally hated it! he had poor hygiene and didn't groom properly.
In my second marriage when the love was there and we were connected on that level... I loved being the giver!

Never cared about getting my rocks off, I just truly enjoyed doing it period. For the longest time that was our number one go to... I mean what guy doesn't want that?

I think it all just depends on the woman and what kind of life she has endured when it comes to Sex and all that goes with it.
 

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I like giving oral, but I'm picky. I've had my share of partners, but have given oral to only a handful of them. For me, it's an attraction thing. If I'm very highly attracted I want to give provided my partner is hygienic. If I'm less attracted it's not something that really appeals.
 

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I will speak for my wife who is not here to speak for herself.

If she has ever given it to anyone, I don't know about it, and I highly doubt it. She finds the whole concept of oral sex, male or female, intensely disgusting. As in just the thought of it makes her a little sick to her stomach.

Sort of like how I feel about Brussels sprouts.
 

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Just seeing this thread now. I work with a bunch of women who have never and will never either perform or receive oral sex and they are NOT shy about their preference. One woman acts like anyone who is into that is an absolute freak of nature and needs psychiatric help. She once had a patient's partner ask if oral sex was okay since PIV was not safe in the pregnancy. I thought it was a good question. She came out of the room all freaked out an announced how disgusting the guy was and that *that* particular act was not happening in her marriage as if that made her a much more worthwhile human being. LOL

I think they all just think it's completely disgusting and only *****s do it. I feel badly for their husbands.

I once told them they have no idea what they are missing and they should give it a try. I think they think I'm a pervert now. And they don't even know yet that I almost married a guy who isn't white!! :surprise:
 

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Just seeing this thread now. I work with a bunch of women who have never and will never either perform or receive oral sex and they are NOT shy about their preference. One woman acts like anyone who is into that is an absolute freak of nature and needs psychiatric help. She once had a patient's partner ask if oral sex was okay since PIV was not safe in the pregnancy. I thought it was a good question. She came out of the room all freaked out an announced how disgusting the guy was and that *that* particular act was not happening in her marriage as if that made her a much more worthwhile human being. LOL

I think they all just think it's completely disgusting and only *****s do it. I feel badly for their husbands.

I once told them they have no idea what they are missing and they should give it a try. I think they think I'm a pervert now. And they don't even know yet that I almost married a guy who isn't white!! :surprise:
This is the other "far end" of the spectrum I was believing, just my opinion, that would come out and provide a highlight of those who "well, I certainly never would etc etc". !!
 
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