I found out about my husbands affair a little over a month ago. We are in counseling, and trying to make it work. He isn't in contact with her anymore and says he's committed to me and fixing our marriage. I'm devastated. I can hardly function. I feel so blindsided by this. I have tried so hard in our 7 years of marriage to be a good wife. I can hardly sleep, barely eat, its frustrating, I need to function.. I have 2 young children to care for, and I'm trying to the best of my ability to keep it together. Its so hard to. He has a really demanding job, and just isn't able to be there for me like I need him to be, and I'm stuck between demanding he be here and afraid that if I start demanding he will change his mind and leave. I dreamed of being married and having a family ever since I was a little girl..This is not the life I dreamed of. I feel like I've been robbed. How long does this last?