I knew on the day I met her. Really. It was an instant thing. Jeez. Just had a shiver, when I realise I still feel the same way, 24 years later.How long did it take you to get to know your other half before getting hitched? Do you feel 6months to a year is enough time to make a decision?
Definitely not enough time!Do you feel 6months to a year is enough time to make a decision?
Yes! What a good list. My wife and I went through things like this to determine if we had the same goals/views on a variety of things from children to toothpaste. I think that agreement on a vast majority is really required. In addition to specific items I think it's important to agree on the method to resolve conflicts. Our style of discussion and compromise was something that fortunately we both shared so even though we didn't explicitly consider it, it has been important to our marriage.Remember, just because you LOVE someone (and they love you) does NOT mean you could make the relationship work long-term. You can LOVE lots of people, you can't make a marriage work with MOST people.
Do you have similar goals?
If you HAVEN'T talked about all this, DO IT. If you CAN'T talk about this because you or your partner would be too uncomfortable, then you've got NO BUSINESS getting married to each other!
- kids: how many? how far apart? wife work out/SAHM? education for them?
- careers: just husband? both? whose has precedence if a transfer is offered?
- money: what are your short-term goals? long-term goals? 2nd home or travel or retirement?
- pets: whose responsibility?
- location: how will you decide WHERE to live?
- budget: how much debt does each of you have? how will you pay it down? who's the saver? the spender? how much would you spend on a wedding/honeymoon?
- sex: are you compatible with how often you prefer it? have a similar interest in trying new things or not comfortable with it? currently satisfied with your sex life? feel comfortable talking about it or suggesting changes?