I’m sure she has told him. But here is the problem... once she tells him and explains why, he might agree to doing it, but he will treat it like an annoying task that he has to do. So he will do it, but he will be unhappy and miserable while he does it, and that’s not what she wants. She wants him to want to do it.Yes, she has told him that she wants him to help more or get up earlier but she apparently refuses to tell him WHY. There is a big difference there.
It’s exactly like men wanting their wives to want more sex. He can explain it to her, and she might agree to it, but many times she treats it like an annoying task and just opens her legs and lays there like a fish. This isn’t what he wants is it?
What we ALL want is a partner who happily does what their partner wants because it makes them happy. But i don’t know if that is truly possible.