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I had an idea the other day for us to break up the monotony of our sex life. We Have been together 22 years btw. I saw this somewhere and we agreed to a masturbation race. We will put on some porn that we like (girl/girl) and both masturbate to see who cums first. She will use her toys as that is what she prefers. I’m hoping it will be a fun diversion from our norms. If she wins big she will take a quick break and then try to go again. If she gets #2 before I get one I will be pissed LOL. If I win I’ll try the same but I generally am unable to cum twice in a short period of time. Regardless I’m hoping this will be a fun experience for us both.

Anyone else have any fun stories or advice on keeping it fresh during this quarantine time?
 

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Like I said...we were looking for a way to spice up/change up our normal routine. We have a healthy sex life. Sometimes it’s nice to break from the norms. I simply was inquiring if anyone else had any ideas to keep things fresh. This isn’t that difficult.
 

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I'm in! Now I have to think about it new ways.

We have been doing more hand and oral, though not uncommon for us.

But I'm still working normal hours, although she's reduced now.

But Ive considered posting this topic.

Great job! Let's all contribute ideas!!

I was already thinking about tonight, btw.
 

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It has been difficult lately to keep things at our usual level (after 20 years still 4-5x/wk), but we moved a month ago. Since then, we have been working hard to get the new house set up to our liking, meaning fatigue and sore muscles almost daily. That slowed us down, but at least we haven't been bored during this stay at home order. We just completed the last of the major projects, and can relax a little. So yesterday evening we had a shower together, opened a bottle of wine, prepared a platter of cheese, fired up the fire pit, and got a buzz on - which always leads to great sex! We also decided to make the next three days about us and sex, and just tinker with the house a little in between. We don't really need to do anything different - except make more time for us - as we are nowhere near being bored with our sex life.
 

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Mrs. NLLH, being the wonderful wife she is has made the last few mornings “eventful” if you catch my drift. We “christened“ my new deck I built the other evening after a bottle of fine wine between us. Thankfully, my daughter who is living with us for the moment was visiting a friend a few miles away. At 57, soon to be 58, we are still quite active.

Saturday evening after three full days of doing landscape work, I was provided a very good massage from wife to express her gratitude for redoing her flower bed and the front of our house. I could get used to this.LOL. For 57 I will take it for certain as most of my pals would be envious at how active we are.
 

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Let's hear it for 57 yrs old and keeping going strong.

I'm 57 btw ;)
Beloved Hubby and I are in this age range too, and I'll just say that our tip toward spicing things up is getting the place to ourselves! :p Between us we have several kids, and we love 'em, but there's nothing as fun as having the place to ourselves.

And yeah..57 is a good age. ;)
 

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Interestingly, my wife, who normally does not suggest much in the way of doing anything new, actually had an interesting suggestion for this "stay at home" time. After some wine the other night, she read an online post about the "30 day challenge"...to have sex every day for 30 days straight. She went as far as suggesting 4 ideas (for 4 of the 30 days), and I was actually pretty interested in the 4 new (or at least newish) things. We tried one this weekend, where we each had to find an online erotic story that we liked, read it to the other, and explain what we liked about it. I was in heaven, since my wife so very rarely expressing any interest in something new, let alone 30 days straight of new things to try. She also suggested, that we take turns pleasuring ourselves in front of each other, BUT,...the one watching must stay fully clothed and simply watch the other (without getting involved or any pleasure of their own). We would each go one night, then the other person another night. The idea was to be fully present, while watching the other person, and not being side tracked by your own pleasure. I was thrilled that my wife offered some ideas....since that is pretty rare.

We have actually one done the erotic story sharing so far, and then not got back to the original 30 day challenge, but it was fun.
 

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Interestingly, my wife, who normally does not suggest much in the way of doing anything new, actually had an interesting suggestion for this "stay at home" time. After some wine the other night, she read an online post about the "30 day challenge"...to have sex every day for 30 days straight. She went as far as suggesting 4 ideas (for 4 of the 30 days), and I was actually pretty interested in the 4 new (or at least newish) things. We tried one this weekend, where we each had to find an online erotic story that we liked, read it to the other, and explain what we liked about it. I was in heaven, since my wife so very rarely expressing any interest in something new, let alone 30 days straight of new things to try. She also suggested, that we take turns pleasuring ourselves in front of each other, BUT,...the one watching must stay fully clothed and simply watch the other (without getting involved or any pleasure of their own). We would each go one night, then the other person another night. The idea was to be fully present, while watching the other person, and not being side tracked by your own pleasure. I was thrilled that my wife offered some ideas....since that is pretty rare.

We have actually one done the erotic story sharing so far, and then not got back to the original 30 day challenge, but it was fun.
Have you ever heard of “Edging”
It’s a more fun version of what you are talking about here.
Turns sex into a marathon rather than a sprint. 😜
 

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Interestingly, my wife, who normally does not suggest much in the way of doing anything new, actually had an interesting suggestion for this "stay at home" time. After some wine the other night, she read an online post about the "30 day challenge"...to have sex every day for 30 days straight. She went as far as suggesting 4 ideas (for 4 of the 30 days), and I was actually pretty interested in the 4 new (or at least newish) things. We tried one this weekend, where we each had to find an online erotic story that we liked, read it to the other, and explain what we liked about it. I was in heaven, since my wife so very rarely expressing any interest in something new, let alone 30 days straight of new things to try. She also suggested, that we take turns pleasuring ourselves in front of each other, BUT,...the one watching must stay fully clothed and simply watch the other (without getting involved or any pleasure of their own). We would each go one night, then the other person another night. The idea was to be fully present, while watching the other person, and not being side tracked by your own pleasure. I was thrilled that my wife offered some ideas....since that is pretty rare.

We have actually one done the erotic story sharing so far, and then not got back to the original 30 day challenge, but it was fun.
Naah. The 30 day challenge would turn sex into a chore rather than a spontaneous pleasure.
 

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Edging sounds great in theory but at least for me it loses its luster because when I’m close to cumming and stop I have a really hard time getting back to that point again any time soon.
 

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Edging sounds great in theory but at least for me it loses its luster because when I’m close to cumming and stop I have a really hard time getting back to that point again any time soon.
Interesting point. My wife and I have only really given it a shot twice, and the first time went really well, the second time my wife got to close, stopped, and could not get back. It ruined it for her. She is normally not one to want to grad sex out long anyway, so was never high on her list, but not sure it is likely to come up, or if it does, rarely.
 
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