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Knock on wood [no pun] everything is still working good,but Reading all the questions about ED/PE this question came to mind, since there is oral,fingers,hands,toys and some can use feet why is no intercourse seen as this huge issues when there are many other ways to arouse or get your partner off.

The same question for men since some women find intercourse painful or are not into it ,would other acts on a consitent basis keep you happy.
 

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SO and I have had this discussion and agree that while we simply adore PIV we have plenty of fun in other ways. So if PE or whatever was an issue then we would still manage to have a rocking sex life. I am mid 40's and he is in his 50's so it is a possibility in the future but that is OK.
 

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It is specified in my marriage oath, so yes from religious-legal standpoint it is important and I must make an effort to do it with my wife at a regular basis, if I want my marriage to stay valid in the eyes of law and religion.
 

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Oh my gosh on a scale of 1 to 10 it is a 12! There is nothing that can take the place of PIV for me and I'm pretty sure husband feels the same. Toys to each his own but it seems empty of intimacy and emotional bonding to me. Masturbation I never got. It can't take the place of my man. Don't know how my husband feels about it. Porn yuck and degrading. Oral we don't like taste and never want my husband to do that on me. But I've gotten to the point that I REALLY. REALLY Want to give him. A BJ but don't know how to bring it up to him and don't know how he would feel about me not wanting to receive.
 

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The reason I asked this question is because there are people who cannot have intercourse so is that a deal breaker or would you be OK doing and learning other things.

If a man could not get hard/PE and his wife is not into oral or toys what what is left ?
 

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The reason I asked this question is because there are people who cannot have intercourse so is that a deal breaker or would you be OK doing and learning other things.

If a man could not get hard/PE and his wife is not into oral or toys what what is left ?
You already answered that question,hands, fingers, feet. I would add breasts.

PIV is the meat, everything else is an appetizer, side dish or dessert. If there is no meat available one could survive and probably get accustomed to just the others but would not be as healthy or satisfied.
 

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The reason I asked this question is because there are people who cannot have intercourse so is that a deal breaker or would you be OK doing and learning other things.

If a man could not get hard/PE and his wife is not into oral or toys what what is left ?
I don't think I could do toys or anything that did not directly involve my husband's body (self gratification, etc). We would have to learn to enjoy oral both ways.
 

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PIV is the cake. All the rest is icing. The real deal is always my preference. That said...if I had been with someone for a long time and PIV is not possible for some reason, yes I would do without and find other ways. If I was just dating and this was the issue, it would be a deal breaker.
 

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Intercourse is mostly emotional & all the other ways are just physical. There are countless ways to reach an orgasm but only one to emotionally bind to each other. If there is reason, health or otherwise you can't have sex, you can still make it but you won't be as close.
 

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Intercourse is very important to us but we are realistic enough to know there are other ways to connect and bond sexually if one or both people couldn't have actual intercourse for whatever reason.
yes, of course! if there are issues preventing this, we can adjust and find ways to connect intimately and emotionally and physically :)
 

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Knock on wood [no pun] everything is still working good,but Reading all the questions about ED/PE this question came to mind, since there is oral,fingers,hands,toys and some can use feet why is no intercourse seen as this huge issues when there are many other ways to arouse or get your partner off.

The same question for men since some women find intercourse painful or are not into it ,would other acts on a consitent basis keep you happy.
Medical issues aside, while other acts are fine in between intercourse, intercourse to me is fundamental. Having intercourse is having sex. The others are certainly sexual activity and have great value but they are not a substitute for sex ... unless there is a medical reason.
 

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Sex for me is all about emotional intimacy I have with my partner, and I can get that intimacy through lots of other outlets. Actual intercourse not being an option would not be an issue for me.
 

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It is extremely important to both of us. Nothing can match the closeness, the intimacy, the feeling of PIV. For me, since one of my love languages is physical touch, nothing can match feeling her in my arms, feeling my P in her V, the kissing, and looking deeply into her eyes as we orgasm. I could have a hand job every night and still crave the intimacy that can only be achieved through intercourse.
 
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Knock on wood [no pun] everything is still working good,but Reading all the questions about ED/PE this question came to mind, since there is oral,fingers,hands,toys and some can use feet why is no intercourse seen as this huge issues when there are many other ways to arouse or get your partner off.

The same question for men since some women find intercourse painful or are not into it ,would other acts on a consitent basis keep you happy.
I didn't read the other posts, so I may be repeating here.

For me, it's not about what other men or women like. It's about what I like and my partner likes. And honestly, there is something almost mesmerizing being inside your partner, your lover, your wife (or future wife in my case) AND being able to look her in the eyes that can't be captured any other way.

They say the eyes are the windows to the soul, and I believe that. Anyone can say I love You, but it's hard to fake an I Love You look from the eyes, so to be inside your partner, sharing yourself and having them share themselves with you while sharing that special gaze that only two people in love can share is one of the most binding moments I have ever experienced.

It's like one moment, where the body and soul of each person becomes intertwined, and two truly become one.

I have never experienced an other sex act that comes even remotely close to this.
 

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Intercourse is mostly emotional & all the other ways are just physical. There are countless ways to reach an orgasm but only one to emotionally bind to each other. If there is reason, health or otherwise you can't have sex, you can still make it but you won't be as close.
Not so in our house. Yes PIV is an amazing emotional experience but we can have sessions that last for ages, don't involve PIV and are extremely bonding.

We have had kissing sessions that were amazing and as bonding as any form of sex i have had.

We can have a quickie, just PIV and while it is fun, it is not that emotionally bonding.

Each couple is different.
 

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We have had kissing sessions that were amazing and as bonding as any form of sex i have had.
Oh yeah, this. Kind of forgot about our "heavy petting" during halftime of football games. We're so silly. LOL!

We had lost the french kissing during sex itself, but thanks to a TAM question about french kissing, it's now back in.
 
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