When one is emotionally fulfilled, it brings an inner happiness/ Joy , brightens our countenance..... we feel wholly accepted by the other, even in our flaws, our bad hair days... we are shown consideration , grace, given their time & their listening ear...we feel we have someone to lean on. The attitude of this song -given to us in a relationship & lived....
Lean On Me
The other night... me & my husband had a really emotionally mushy teary eyed -but mountain top couple hours... reliving the past with each other.... . we dug out some old canisters -- old Love letters - to each other in my hands ...my teen journal....I started reading some of this aloud..... OMG........my attitude.... bossy little opinionated wench - then on the other spectrum, I was this clingy emotionally vulnerable girl....insecurity detected in much of my writings..... ..... I was caught between laughing hysterically and feeling ... wow, how in the world did He ever put up with me
[email protected]#$%^ .....but then I would find one that I was pouring out my
in how good he was to me/ how I loved him ...I don't know, I think we were both a little messed up - but together.... we fulfilled something in the other and built something beautiful over these years.
And through it all, just as he did back then, he'd take me in his arms and hold me..... always my #1 fan....we both cried in front of each other....noses touching looking into each others eyes with tears streaming ...had to keep blowing my nose....we are pathetic like this sometimes... but ya know, moments like that ... what an emotional HIGH ...at the same time. It's about vulnerability before each other... Then we just laugh at ourselves.
Tremendous emotional connection in that.
It is just something you FEEL deep within, it washes over you, gives you a comfort and contentment that you are utterly Loved..and always will be.
Whereas ..... If you feel slighted, pushed aside, neglected like everyone else is more important in your significant others life....that you don't measure up, he/she doesn't take
the time to LISTEN to you ~ when you are feeling down..... come to your aid when you are sick & need a friend - someone just to sit by your side, give you a hug.... spending "TIME" with you....
If their ACTIONS do not match their words...little things DO matter.... this all begins to take a toll on us emotionally ....to make us feel "less" in their eyes, less important generally = less emotional connection between 2 people .... this always Hurts the
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To avoid this sort of pain, often people numb.... they want to push it down, they try to fill themselves in other ways... addictions, vices....anything to take the edge off. Many guard their hearts due to past hurts, afraid to allow others in to see the REAL them, the fragile them, their sensitive side that is capable of getting hurt...and deeply. To overcome this hurdle with someone you love, to work through that and find this place... is the goldmine in relationships. Or so I feel.