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How many new things have you tried? Have you tried different locations? Have you been to a swingers club?
Work on your communication with your wife, and focus on giving her lots of affection and then you can start to explore new areas of sexual pleasure with her.
 

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Do hot fudge sundaes become old hat and you never want to eat them again? Or how about pizza from your favorite pizza shop? Do you get bored with that? I'd say most people can enjoy something for years without getting bored.

I've been with my wife for 16 years, and I still get excited to make love to her - even if it's missionary or spooning sex.
 

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Do hot fudge sundaes become old hat and you never want to eat them again? Or how about pizza from your favorite pizza shop? Do you get bored with that? I'd say most people can enjoy something for years without getting bored.

I've been with my wife for 16 years, and I still get excited to make love to her - even if it's missionary or spooning sex.
When my wife slides into bed with me the touch of her skin is like an electric shock......Lust at it's finest..
 

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Communication is the key though easier said than done since it's funny how we're often sometimes shy to share our most hidden desires with of all people our own spouses UGH ???

But if and when you can .... i'd suggest perhaps writing out one's fantasies and see if you and she can alternate in discussing them or playing them out. Of course depenind on the fantasy it may be best not to play it out ( rape fantasy , gangbang etc etc ) but it does open up new ideas and of all things the line of communication. Good luck !!
 

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Me & my husband had 2 position vanilla
with nothing brighter than a dim light for 19 straight years... we had to be the most boring couple alive in the bedroom, we didn't even moan ...and this may sound crazy but we were both totally satisfied with that, neither got bored or felt a spark missing or a need to turn anything up.....I never complained once.

Looking back, this almost sounds INSANE....all that makes sense is.... The "Emotional Connection" was flowing so high with each other - we felt fulfilled & satisfied. So in this way, never underestimate the "emotional".. the simple sensual, the 2
's connecting"... that making love is meant to be.

But now for some Spicing... Once I hit Mid life , I thought to myself.. My God, what have we been missing ....and I went a little MAD...lots more Novelty now...

1. Endless sex positions Sex Positions Guide

2. Sex Games.... ever stroll into a Spencers store in the Mall -lots of inspiration there >> Get sexy at Spencer

Discover Your Lover Adult Board Game .... XXXopoly - Adult Board Games:

3. How about some new Sex Furniture >> Liberator Bedroom Adventure Gear .. can also try a Sex Swing

4. Try some new Toys - can read reviews on Adam & Eve

5. If you rent Porn Online....good chance they will have most of these titles for new ideas to spice up your marital bedroom, Fantasy videos, Tantric sex, Kuma Sutra, etc... Loving Sex Instructional DVDs for Couples

6. How about planning a Romantic Vacation destination
.. Lingerie/ add photo shoots of your own/ Do a Boudoir photography session.... Why Boudoir Photography is Hot

7. Revisit an old "make out" destination... Do something daring -just don't get caught !

8. Add Erotic Message

9. Buy a couple new Sex books, read together / Play together >>>

Ride 'Em Cowgirl! Sex Position Secrets For Better Bucking

The Naughty Bucket List: 369 Sexy Dares To Do Before You Die:

101 Nights of Grrreat Sex

10. 20 Ways to Spice Up Your Sex Life

1. Pretend you just met him
"When our sex life started to slow down, I started thinking about how another woman would see my husband if she just met him -- and this made me want to impress him. I did things like buying new lingerie, getting up just a little earlier than usual to join him in the shower or making time to play later in the tub. We totally rediscovered each other's sexiness after that."

2. Tease each other
"Sometimes, when my husband and I wake up and hear the kids, we start kissing and caressing anyway. Of course we don't continue, but we get all worked up and then go all day stealing little looks and kisses. Sure, we could duck away and end the torture, but I think that secretly, we both enjoy this little dance. It definitely keeps things exciting!"

3. Act on your moods
"My problem was that even if I was in the mood when my husband was at work, by the time he got home I'd be too exhausted. It started to get so frustrating! Then, I figured out a plan. Every time I get in the mood during the middle of the day, I put a blindfold or something suggestive under his pillow. Even though I may be too tired to initiate sex later, he finds my little clue and definitely gets the message."

4. Get high-tech
"I've started emailing my husband sexy fantasy scenarios on his personal email account. This really helps me to get brave. Because sometimes, I just feel silly showing him my sexual side when we're face-to- face. Plus, getting his mind going like that has certainly has paid off."

5. Rent an "adult" video
"There are so many helpful sex videos available that are not intimidating at all. The one I like is narrated by a sex therapist; it's instructional in nature. You learn how to effectively stimulate someone, but on a really nonthreatening level."

6. Take real life and shove it
"My husband and I were always too busy for love. Finally, one night we were getting serious about fooling around and what happened? The phone rang! Even though he picked it up, I decided to take matters into my own hands, and kept right on kissing him, all over. I loved that power, and he went wild too -- when he finally got off the phone."

7. Be at each other's mercy
"Once I whispered in my significant other's ear to take hold of my hand. Then I told him I was going to close my eyes and he had to place my hand anywhere on his body. Then I massaged whatever area it was. He was kind of in control, but ultimately I controlled the pleasure."

8. Surprise him -- and yourself!
"I flashed my husband when he got home from work last night. Enough said, right?"

9. Heat up the outdoors
"We like to pack a picnic and head to our favorite secluded spot. Sometimes we even get to go skinny dipping there. When you try it don't forget a blanket or sleeping bag, pillows and bug spray because you're sure in for a long night! Of course, city dwellers can picnic too. Just create a hideaway spot on your bedroom floor!"

10. Be aggressive
"Telling my husband what to do in bed is very erotic. Although I wouldn't want a puppy dog for a husband all the time, it is so much fun to say what I want, when and how. Then there is seeing his response! He might get even more turned on than me."

11. Share (racy) compliments
"Once my husband and I were going to fool around in front of a mirror. He stood behind me and slowly undressed me. But as he moved along he told me how beautiful each part of my body is. Let me tell you, I didn't mind a bit. Compliments are a wonderful way to heat up any situation. The next time we made love I gave him a few of my own!"

12. Do a little dance
"I know that lots of women feel comfortable doing a striptease, but I'm way too shy to try it. I have my own version of one. I just dance for my fiancé, making him want to touch me, but never let him. After I've taken off just a few items of clothing, I let him do the rest! It's all at my speed, and he loves it! In the end, we're both very happy."

13. Go to a "toy store" together.
"My husband and I had planned a real date, just the two of us. We dressed up and hit the town. After dinner, I was sure the night was finished, but he had a detour planned. We pulled right into a sex store! I think if he gave me time to think about it, I'd have chickened out. But instead, we walked through the whole store -- and it was very exciting! I think that I even managed to control the blushing until we left."

14. Slip into something more comfortable
"One night, after my boyfriend and I went out dancing, he offered to get take-out and bring it back to my place. While he was gone, I decided to make the room -- and myself -- more 'comfortable.' This meant lighting candles, putting on a long satin nightgown, and spraying room freshener. I didn't plan on taking it further, but when he walked in with the food, I saw his eyes jump. So I decided to walk over to him seductively. I pressed my body up to his, and whispered into his ear, 'I have wanted you so badly all night.' That's when his mouth hit the floor, along with the food!"

15. Spend intimate time together
"Read a chapter of a book together every night. You can eat grapes, drink wine, even incorporate adult toys or choose to read erotic literature to each other. But for my husband and me, this is all about making an effort to touch, cuddle and spend intimate time together. That leads to an exciting evening no matter what!"

16. Appeal to all his senses
"I have been known to put cinnamon on a cookie sheet, turn the oven on and leave the door open a bit. This fills the house with the smell of chocolate chip cookies and puts my husband in a really good mood. 350 degrees usually does the trick!"

17. Get -- and give -- sneak previews
"What I like best is when my boyfriend and I describe what we're about to do to each other before doing it. As he talks, I can practically feel what will happen to my body. Talk about a double whammy. When he finally does it, I go through the roof! "

18. Make a bedroom rule "There is one standing 'rule' in our bedroom. We are not allowed to use the same position more than once in a week. Of course we break the rule, but not often, and it generally keeps us from getting into a boring sexual routine."

19. Make a game of it
"I challenge my boyfriend to a game of basketball when things get dull. Whoever wins gets whatever he or she wants. Plus, you could make it a full body contact sport."

20. End boredom with a routine
"We always celebrate the new year with sex! We've tried to time our orgasms so they both strike right at midnight, but haven't been able to yet. The good news is that we just get to keep trying next year!"
 

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This app really helped my wife and I figure out some fantasies we had in common but never talked about:

Fantasy Finder | Fantasy Finder will help you and your partner safely discover common fantasies

Communication is the key though easier said than done since it's funny how we're often sometimes shy to share our most hidden desires with of all people our own spouses UGH ???

But if and when you can .... i'd suggest perhaps writing out one's fantasies and see if you and she can alternate in discussing them or playing them out. Of course depenind on the fantasy it may be best not to play it out ( rape fantasy , gangbang etc etc ) but it does open up new ideas and of all things the line of communication. Good luck !!
 

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I've read the first few responses and I agree with them.
Sex is never boring with us.
It may get a little lazy at times If either of us is tired, but she usually tells me ; " next time we'll make up for that."

It may not be a screaming orgasm everytime, but the fact that we are with each other, and there is no " performance anxiety" means that we are ourselves.
Whenever we feel like it, we push the boundaries, but we never push each other to do anything.
We have " been there and done lots" but we still have a long way to go and look forward to it after 17 years together.
 

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...I just wish it always felt new. And I don't want to be a cake eater. I want to love my wife.
Good luck!!! I've struggled with this before and it is a doozy!! We have more toys than you can count all high $$ toys at that and at times I still feel like "Now what?".

Our frequency is much lower than it used to be 1-2x a week on average, but in reality it's 3-4 days in a row than 10 days nothing just because life has been that crazy.

I'm with you don't want to be a cake eater, but the urge for variety is strong!! The only thing I found that works is decrease frequency and buying new toys worked for awhile.
 
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