[t2morgan]

I posted here a few months ago. "Husband and His Female Friend" I recognized and confronted my husband about his EA. His response was, I'm imagining it...there's nothing going on.

REALLY!

Viewers, readers, please tell me what you think?

These are a few texts he sent after I confronted him concerning his emotional attachment to this women.

7:30 am: "OX"

A few days later: U R So Wonderful. I appreciate everything you do.

Next day: You are getting more beautiful with everyday.

Yesterday: Her text to him: I'm so grateful for many things But mainly so grateful for you. His response: Yes and you sure know how to show it..wink..wink.

COME ON REALLY!! I'm not that dumb am I !?!

So I'm trying to do the 180. But I'm having trouble composing myself. I get through a few days then turn into this monstrous *****!! This has never been my character. I feel myself getting violent inside when I know hes lying! Mind you I've been married to this man for 32 years and we have a business together.

Any suggestions?

 

[Bellavista]

Oh that is not good. Totally inappropriate behaviour.

 

[Memento]

I posted here a few months ago. "Husband and His Female Friend" I recognized and confronted my husband about his EA. His response was, I'm imagining it...there's nothing going on.

REALLY!

Viewers, readers, please tell me what you think?

These are a few texts he sent after I confronted him concerning his emotional attachment to this women.

7:30 am: "OX"

A few days later: U R So Wonderful. I appreciate everything you do.

Next day: You are getting more beautiful with everyday.

Yesterday: Her text to him: I'm so grateful for many things But mainly so grateful for you. His response: Yes and you sure know how to show it..wink..wink.

COME ON REALLY!! I'm not that dumb am I !?!

So I'm trying to do the 180. But I'm having trouble composing myself. I get through a few days then turn into this monstrous *****!! This has never been my character. I feel myself getting violent inside when I know hes lying! Mind you I've been married to this man for 32 years and we have a business together.

Any suggestions?

Oh dear! This reminds of a friend of mine that caught her boyfriend with another woman, and calmly told her that was just his cousin. He even invited the gf to join them, at the bar. My friend, later found out he was having an affair with his "cousin" or quite a while.

That woman is as much of just a "friend" to your husband, has the other was a "cousin" of my friends boyfriend.

You are not exaggerating.

 

[DayDream]

I posted here a few months ago. "Husband and His Female Friend" I recognized and confronted my husband about his EA. His response was, I'm imagining it...there's nothing going on.

REALLY!

Viewers, readers, please tell me what you think?

These are a few texts he sent after I confronted him concerning his emotional attachment to this women.

7:30 am: "OX"

A few days later: U R So Wonderful. I appreciate everything you do.

Next day: You are getting more beautiful with everyday.

Yesterday: Her text to him: I'm so grateful for many things But mainly so grateful for you. His response: Yes and you sure know how to show it..wink..wink.

COME ON REALLY!! I'm not that dumb am I !?!

So I'm trying to do the 180. But I'm having trouble composing myself. I get through a few days then turn into this monstrous *****!! This has never been my character. I feel myself getting violent inside when I know hes lying! Mind you I've been married to this man for 32 years and we have a business together.

Any suggestions?

You don't need our opinion on whether or not that is appropriate conversation. You know already it is totally inappropriate. Don't turn into a psycho, don't blow up, don't be monstrous...just calmly demand it stop or divorce.

 

[Hope1964]

Kick his cheating lying ass to the curb.

 

[DayDream]

You are woman...strong and independent. You don't need a cheater. You are worth more.

 

[t2morgan]

I guess I should rephrase what I'm asking.

Has anyone had success with the 180 and could give some pointers on NOT going crazy while doing it?

Thanks everyone

 

[CandieGirl]

What point is doing the 180, if you're letting your husband continue to cheat? 180 on him now, he'll love it, it'll give him all the time he needs to carry on his affair.

Shove that cell phone up his arse, why don't you, then maybe he'll start taking you seriously.

 

[Hope1964]

180 his ass right out the door. There's nothing better to get yourself back on track than ridding your life of toxic harmful noxious substances.

The point of the 180 is to better YOURSELF. How can you do that when someone like that is in the same house??

 

[Cosmos]

Get angry, but use that anger to give you the impetus to take strong action and keep as calm and rational as you possibly can.

I don't see how a 180 is going to help this situation one bit. I think you need to confront him and tell him what the consequences are if he doesn't stop his affair - because that's what it is, and EA. However, don't tell him this unless you are prepared and ready to follow through if he refuses to comply.