I found out yesterday that for the past two years my husband has been paying my car payments late. Not just a little late, 2 and 3 months late. He has lied to me about it and tried to hide it from me. Two years ago he told me he wanted take over paying the bills. At that time I had everything paid up. I make more money and have always been very responsible. Never have I one time been late on a car payment and I am in my early 40s. Now I have 29 late payments on my record and screwed up credit. I feel lied to and betrayed. I feel like it is a reflection on me when people see that, that really isn't me. I handed over paychecks to him and he used them for what he wanted and didn't bother to discuss anything with me. To top it off, he paid his truck off. The only reason I found out is I arrived home before him (which I do not normally do - he normally comes in and gets the mail and handles it before I get home) and I got a notice in the mail stating a payment was 58 days past due. I feel like my trust in him has been violated. When I try to talk to him he gets angry and defensive. I have cried for two days. I told him I would never pay anything of his late and not discuss it with him first, he just doesn't seem to get how upset I am over this or why I feel betrayed.