Have been separated from my wife of 19yrs for the past 8 months, in which time I fell in love (lust, infatuation?) with another woman. There was some infidelity on the wife's side a few years ago which I thought I was over. I broke it off with the other woman a month ago with no contact to try and save my family and marriage. It's been very hard, miss the OW. I have moved back in with the wife and we are going to marriage counseling in a few days. I am not attracted to my wife but I do love and care about her, she has been my friend for a long time and the mother of my 2 children. How do I go about rekindling some kind of attraction, sexual feelings for her? I'm sure MC will point us in the direction. She has been trying, dressing up, makeup, sexy clothes etc. but it just isn't there, which makes her sad that I don't want her. It's like something died inside me. I had great sex with the OW. It was new, I know. I wish I did feel that way for my wife, it would make my life, and her's, so much easier. Advice?