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My husband cums so quickly! We've tried rings, pills, condoms.... nothing works. Ughhhhhhhhh

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Try a sensitivity cream on the inside of the condom.

You could also try building up his stamina by engaging in exercises with him. Get him to the point of orgasm and then force him to stop (this doesn't have to be during sex and probably shouldn't be for your sake). Then, once the urge has passed, get going again and get him to point of orgasm and stop. Keep doing this. Over time, he will learn to control it. Basically the same thing as kegal exercises except you can help him do it.

Also, change your profile pic because the poor guy's face is now linked to this post! :)
 

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Have you tried having him get off earlier in the day, say an hour or two before sex?

To extend on that, try a week of sex (sex everyday for a week). I'd wager that by the third or fourth day, he'll be lasting much longer and by the end of the week it could be a really long time. Myself, if it's been say 3-4 days between, I'll go pretty damn quickly, much quicker than I want. But if sex is much more frequent, it helps prevent you from getting over excited.
 
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He makes me cum first...with oral...or a vibrator... which is fine but sometimes I just wanna be pounded hard! Lol ughh

We have tried creams...but do they take away a lot of feeling to the point of possibly going soft?
 

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I always find I last much longer with wifey on top, plus as she has more control over proceedings she always (99%) cums first, we then have the option of turning over or sideways and continue and for some reason the fact that I have lasted while she is on top makes me last longer after.

You both look fairly young and when I first got married I was on a hair trigger too.
For me, and I suspect for your man too, I was so lost in the moment of making love, so full of desire and passion for my wife that I found it difficult to exert control. With me it took a lot of effort while younger to exert that control, which can spoil the sex a little as you constantly have to exert control. Now it happens much more naturally.
 

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There's lots of "tricks" you can do to extend his sexual stamina. Changing sexual positions is the most subtle and useful trick. Woman-on-top tends to help make the man last a bit longer. Him coming before sex with you also helps him last longer.

Someone mentioned kegel exercises, and that's not a bad idea at all. Tell him to work on that. Tell him to hang a wet hand towel over his erect penis, and squeeze and hold his kegel muscles for about ten seconds, repeatedly. He should make a routine of this.

I'd also advise you to to masterbate with him. No porn, no toys, just you, him, and your hands. Have him (and you) explore his body and genitals. The object isn't to make him come, but to help him familiarize himself with his sexual energy, and his strengths and weaknesses.
 

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I mean this seriously... not poking fun at you or anything...

what a fun problem to try and fix!

Go slow, pause, stop. Go again. Lets try this way, or that.

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Yeah - I bet it can be frustrating too, obviously to have the cork pop off just when you are getting rolling.

For me - I have to say the certain positions just add so much...uhm... 'tension' on my little friend (like doggie) that things seem to progress much more rapidly. Softer, gentler positions (like missionary, or her on top - if she isnt leaning back!) less so - undoubtedly you know all that too.

Practice, Practice, Practice. I also feel that when I am relaxed and dont have any particular goal in mind, like orgasm, things progress at a more measured pace. Not that I ever have that as a concious 'goal', but lets face it - sometimes it can come on like a freight train - lets face it she turns me on - which can be fun too. Without a doubt 10 minutes later, the second round is much easier to moderate. We only rarely get to round 3.

Maybe dont worry so much about the first round if a 2nd round would be more like a stroll in the park rather than a 40 yd dash? I know lots of guys however that are toast for a few hours after... so it depends on your routine - dont know if getting him off once first (HJ, BJ whatever) would be a good idea for you.

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Have you tried having him get off earlier in the day, say an hour or two before sex?

To extend on that, try a week of sex (sex everyday for a week). I'd wager that by the third or fourth day, he'll be lasting much longer and by the end of the week it could be a really long time. Myself, if it's been say 3-4 days between, I'll go pretty damn quickly, much quicker than I want. But if sex is much more frequent, it helps prevent you from getting over excited.
If he cums already in the day..he has issues keeping it up later. So that's a no go.

We've done a week straight of sex...and it does help. But not tremendously. We generally have sex every other day or every 2 days. But if it were up to me we'd be doing it everyday! Hubs is tired at night cause he gets up at 5 for work and works 7 days a week. He's asleep before me most of the time and I feel bad waking him up.

The only upside to this is that giving him a bj is a breeze cause it doesn't take more then a couple minutes! Lol :p
 

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What about if he has a nap after coming home for like an hour? A little recharge so to speak?
 

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I mean this seriously... not poking fun at you or anything...

what a fun problem to try and fix!

Go slow, pause, stop. Go again. Lets try this way, or that.

:D

Yeah - I bet it can be frustrating too, obviously to have the cork pop off just when you are getting rolling.

For me - I have to say the certain positions just add so much...uhm... 'tension' on my little friend (like doggie) that things seem to progress much more rapidly. Softer, gentler positions (like missionary, or her on top - if she isnt leaning back!) less so - undoubtedly you know all that too.

Practice, Practice, Practice. I also feel that when I am relaxed and dont have any particular goal in mind, like orgasm, things progress at a more measured pace. Not that I ever have that as a concious 'goal', but lets face it - sometimes it can come on like a freight train - lets face it she turns me on - which can be fun too. Without a doubt 10 minutes later, the second round is much easier to moderate. We only rarely get to round 3.

Maybe dont worry so much about the first round if a 2nd round would be more like a stroll in the park rather than a 40 yd dash? I know lots of guys however that are toast for a few hours after... so it depends on your routine - dont know if getting him off once first (HJ, BJ whatever) would be a good idea for you.

just babbling...
Stop. Go. Stop. Go. Stop. Go. Lol!

Me on top does slow things down..and maybe I can get a whole 60-70 seconds out of that.

I must admit we've come a long way in the last 5 years. He used to go a few pumps and be ready to burst...at least now he can hold it for a minute or 2....maybe sometimes 5.

I can cum very quickly....so we mesh well.. but sometimes I just want more!

The only time he can last forever is if I wake him up early, early before he has to get up for work. His morning wood can go forever...but he can't cum and that makes it less fun for me.
 

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Have you tried having him get off earlier in the day, say an hour or two before sex?

To extend on that, try a week of sex (sex everyday for a week). I'd wager that by the third or fourth day, he'll be lasting much longer and by the end of the week it could be a really long time. Myself, if it's been say 3-4 days between, I'll go pretty damn quickly, much quicker than I want. But if sex is much more frequent, it helps prevent you from getting over excited.
I tried asking for that and my wife just laughs and says ewww!!!!!!!;):p:D
 

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So he blows his top quickly, unless it's in the morning, and then he can't go at all?

I'd like to say that's weird, but I never get it in the morning so I really don't know. I'd assume that I could go in the morning, but the opportunity never presents itself. Lucky ******!
 

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I tried asking for that and my wife just laughs and says ewww!!!!!!!;):p:D
Laughs and then says ewww, sure makes you feel like a man huh? I'd likely get a similar response if I asked (minus the ewww at least, but still...).
 

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honestly - I live on morning sex. Morning wood is 'big' with us.

Funny how the day always seems to start off sunny! I can think of worse ways to rise and shine.

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Run with the stop/go thing. It tickles your funnybone, run with it. It doesnt have to be funny and you both dont have to sit there like limp fish and he shouldnt have to do algebra i his head. I think if you can get in the mode of simply enjoying being coupled (and who doesnt!) you are both going to get more out of it - and more of it... over time.

As I think of this.. man.. I'd feel like a failure if my wife ever hinted I was routinely popping off way too quick. Yeah - sometimes you could use me to time an egg - same as lot of guys I think... but do be careful about letting your disappointment leak out.

go for it. Get going, get deep and just hang out there and make out. Move just enough to keep things 'up' and if you or he feels like the energy is waning then let the gate down and go for the big finish and enjoy it.

practice practice practice.

I love the fact that you are going to work in this. Its all good.
 

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First time I met my wife, she hadn't had orgasm for 6 months, so she did orgasm quickly. After that, we had sex everyday for about 9 months before we are married, sometimes 2-3 times a day, we even had 5 in a day, so I did always last long enough to give her orgasms first...
After our daughter was born, sex went down to once a month, and I used to have hair trigger which sometimes made her mad. But now, I had learn to control it through kegel and edging, I could last from 15 minutes to half an hour, until she has her first...
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the kegals work very well...suggest when he is urinating, that he stops mid stream, holds for 5 sec, start again, then repeat. have him do this every time he uses the restroom.
my H also has these issues and he has started doing that as well as using a **** ring, dont get a cheezy really flexible one, get a good quality one, place it around his penis and behind his nuggets while he is flaccid. it works wonders!!!! Also like others have mentioned, masterbating frequently can also help.
much luck
 
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