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Help! I need advice! My marriage has become boring! I have been married for 8 years. For the past two years it has become boring. He doesn't take me out. He is not my only outlet for being social and having fun.
He get stubborn and used to his routine. It's predictable and he knows what to expect. We can't have any spur of the moment activity outside the house. He says he needs time to think about it. Today I said "Why don't we go see a movie?" He said he doesn't want to. There are some good movies playing, and he has gone before, but rarely.
He used to take me out all the time when we were dating and early in our marriage. I am not expecting expensive dates either.
I need some time for us to connect.
His idea of fun is to go to the one of few restaurants we have been to before and go to the local sports bar to play pool and watch sports. I like playing pool on Fridays where I see some of our friends who are regulars, but Saturday it's full of sports fans watching the games. It's too crowded and I just sit there and he is off helping the bartenders (he used to work there) taking glasses and beer bottles off the tables for them. He doesn't really talk to me much when we are there anyways, so I talk to whomever. It's still boring.
How do I get my husband to get an idea about something to do rather than me having to come up with ideas, and most of the time he doesn't want to go?
He get stubborn and used to his routine. It's predictable and he knows what to expect. We can't have any spur of the moment activity outside the house. He says he needs time to think about it. Today I said "Why don't we go see a movie?" He said he doesn't want to. There are some good movies playing, and he has gone before, but rarely.
He used to take me out all the time when we were dating and early in our marriage. I am not expecting expensive dates either.
I need some time for us to connect.
His idea of fun is to go to the one of few restaurants we have been to before and go to the local sports bar to play pool and watch sports. I like playing pool on Fridays where I see some of our friends who are regulars, but Saturday it's full of sports fans watching the games. It's too crowded and I just sit there and he is off helping the bartenders (he used to work there) taking glasses and beer bottles off the tables for them. He doesn't really talk to me much when we are there anyways, so I talk to whomever. It's still boring.
How do I get my husband to get an idea about something to do rather than me having to come up with ideas, and most of the time he doesn't want to go?