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I found out because my wife told me that she was going to be unfaithful.
She had actually set the scene when we had got together some years before, having told me that if a particular former lover came back to our town, she would have trouble resisting him.
So, yes, eventually he did come back to our town and she decided to have an affair with him.
I was upset, but held it together until the affair ended.
Afterwards she apologised to me and said: "I cannot believe how I must have hurt you. I thought I was just being honest about it, but it must have hurt you very badly."
Yes, it hurt like hell.
We are still together over 15 years later but even now I sometimes think about how gutted I felt. A while later I had a brief EA that nearly went PA, but I realised the danger and went NC, there.
My wife began berating me and then said: "Is this because of my affair? Was this your revenge?"
I thought about my reply:"Yes, I think it probably is because of your affair. But no, it was not an act of revenge."
This is the first time I have told anyone about this. I am so glad I found this website.
She had actually set the scene when we had got together some years before, having told me that if a particular former lover came back to our town, she would have trouble resisting him.
So, yes, eventually he did come back to our town and she decided to have an affair with him.
I was upset, but held it together until the affair ended.
Afterwards she apologised to me and said: "I cannot believe how I must have hurt you. I thought I was just being honest about it, but it must have hurt you very badly."
Yes, it hurt like hell.
We are still together over 15 years later but even now I sometimes think about how gutted I felt. A while later I had a brief EA that nearly went PA, but I realised the danger and went NC, there.
My wife began berating me and then said: "Is this because of my affair? Was this your revenge?"
I thought about my reply:"Yes, I think it probably is because of your affair. But no, it was not an act of revenge."
This is the first time I have told anyone about this. I am so glad I found this website.