I believe mine happened quick. 4 days before the "teens" showed up to help with our haunted house, she came to me while I was laying on the bed "I love you so much" I said "Are you happy with me still?" "Ohh I'm very happy, I don't know why you're still with me but I'm very happy. You better never leave me, I don't' know what I"d do w/o you."
2 weeks later she had been flirting with them ever since they showed up. We had a blow up fight over her spending all her time with them and not any with me. I got scared and said "maybe we need a divorce then" I do this when I get scared for us, Probly 3rd time in 11 years. She said "Maybe that's not a bad idea"
about 2 weeks later she slept with a 19 yro. 2 months later, we're getting a D. OM is gone, but she said she's happy with me not in her life. She even said "Have you watched me at work? (theater)" I said "No, why?" She said "I'm HAPPY now. I'm happy where I'm at, I dont' want you. I don't want this anymore. I want to be alone"
So yeah, 2.5 -3 months it went from happy happy joy joy to ... garbage. MLC? I don't know. But it was over the night it blew up. She asked me to sleep in the theater and that was it.
So in 3 months, we went from having awesome love and happiness and a great chance to make a new life with our new business (haunted house) to losing our azz on the business, losing our house, losing our cash. Being in debt. Moving in with my friend and her, her brother's house. Lost a few of my new friends. I'm jobless now. can't find a job. I'm a felon.
My world completely upside down. 3 months. To me that's pretty quick. Now, unless she's been hiding things? I don't know, but if so, why would she COME TO ME and tell me these things about being happy and love? This wasn't the only time either. She did this plenty.