You obviously haven't read my thread describing my situation in detail. I used to try to initiate--for years. However my husband usually rejected me. He was "too tired," his "stomach hurt," or he was "just not thinking about it." And if he did go along with it, the sex wasn't as good as if he initiated it. So after years of rejection, I quit and left it up to him. Sometimes I would still flirt and let him know I was in the mood. But that was also usually met with absolutely no reciprocation. He only flirts when HE's in the mood for sex. So our pattern changed to: He flirts when he's in the mood. Then I flirt back. Then he initiates and I accept. Any other combination usually results in nothing.Why didn't YOU initiate? If it is more than a day and I don't, my wife does. That long time period was just as much your doing as it was his. If you don't want to initiate, then make it clear throughout e the day you are ready and willing.
My wife and I have been married 25 yrs and act like honeymooners, can't keep our hands off each other. That sends me a signal that she is game if I initiate. Come to think of it, she has not turned me down in 8-9 yrs. There are times I will not initiate if she is not feeling well or I know she is really tired.