i am recently married (a few months)
now that the honeymoon is over, it's become clear that the marriage is not going to work. we want totally different things in life and after several years together already, the attraction has waned. there were some issues even before we got married, but we ignored them and probably just hoped they'd go away. i don't think these differences are reconcilable. either we will split, or one of us will just have to bury what they want and be miserable (like what my parents did until their bitter divorce)
i guess it was fear of being without her that made me go through with the wedding, but it's becoming really clear that we've both married the wrong person
but i know if i ask for a divorce so soon, it will humiliate my wife - especially among her family. i still love her very much as a friend, and want this to be as painless for her as possible. she is a beautiful person and will one day be a great wife for a more compatable guy
i feel the best way is for her to feel like it's her decision. is there anything i can do to gently nudge her in that direction? i know this seems like a manipulative thing to do, and that's not really who i am, but i'm getting desperate
any advice greatly appreciated!
now that the honeymoon is over, it's become clear that the marriage is not going to work. we want totally different things in life and after several years together already, the attraction has waned. there were some issues even before we got married, but we ignored them and probably just hoped they'd go away. i don't think these differences are reconcilable. either we will split, or one of us will just have to bury what they want and be miserable (like what my parents did until their bitter divorce)
i guess it was fear of being without her that made me go through with the wedding, but it's becoming really clear that we've both married the wrong person
but i know if i ask for a divorce so soon, it will humiliate my wife - especially among her family. i still love her very much as a friend, and want this to be as painless for her as possible. she is a beautiful person and will one day be a great wife for a more compatable guy
i feel the best way is for her to feel like it's her decision. is there anything i can do to gently nudge her in that direction? i know this seems like a manipulative thing to do, and that's not really who i am, but i'm getting desperate
any advice greatly appreciated!