Discussion Starter · #41 ·
Not so much hard, but a bit cathartic. I just realized I may be waiting months for something that may never happen and while I still love him I can't and won't place my life on hold. My therapist is now doing checks on me every day due to the number of panic attacks I've had.I'm sure it was very hard to hear him say this. I'm so sorry. I know it hurts but now you have your answer. You can move forward knowing the truth.
I recommend you find yourself a lawyer and start the divorce process. From personal experience, the quicker you divorce, the quicker you can plan for your future. You may find therapy useful. You also mentioned being able to work from anywhere. Maybe a change in address would be helpful.
My main concern right now is my immigration status, so I'll go to a solicitor to see my options for that. He has offered to pay for all of this (he's probably going to ask his parents for money as he's broke--they don't agree with the divorce so I'm going to see how this plays out). I think we're going to have to be separated for a while before the divorce is finalized.