I read this over and over and over again. But I completely fail to understand how both of these things can be simultaneously true.
I’m thinking these statements are mostly made in a new OPs first few posts. They are in shock and trying to process the situation. If you ask them again ten pages in, probably a different story.
Yes, he might be a gambler, and cause family financial distress. These are things kids should not know. with them, he might be the best father around, spending time with them, be emotionally available, etc. These things are important for children. Doesn't mean OP should accept the gambling, and just stay in the marriage. But she can still appreciate how he is around children.A poster who has a husband witj a gambling problem that is affecting family finances stated: but he's a good father.
Others had the opinion he can't really be a good father if he's squandering family funds, which ultimately hurts the children.
My ex husband was a self absorbed, possibly narcissistic, selfish prick as a husband but an amazing father. I’m not sure how that happened either but I guess I’d rather be the target than the children.