I am going through divorce and 6 months in, how do you get through holidays the first year. My 19yr old son signed up to join the army this week and tells me he will be gone by December. I thought my kids would spend thanksgiving with their dad and christmas with me. Everything will be different, the thought that my oldest will not be here is so overwhelming. Yes I have relied on him through this awful period in my life, I am not going to lie. I feel he is trying to make sense of the terrible truth that his dad is not who he thought he was. While I am trying to support him I don't know how deal with his absence. I have 2 other kids who look up to their brother, his 18yr old brother will be lost without him. He said he wanted to join so that the people with kids would not have to go. It's going to be difficult with all the changes, any ideas.