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My husband had a history of porn addiction. He's said that therapy helped him and it's no longer an issue ...

But yesterday he "woke up" with extreme elbow pain. Right arm. Turns out he has a "frozen elbow" from "overuse".

His tendon is stuck.., he doesn't play tennis...makes me wonder?????
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My porn and masturbation habits increased during my wife and I's low period in our sex life. She was LD for a good 10 years and my drive (which was already high) went through the roof once I began testosterone replacement therapy a few years ago. Recipe for disaster? Kind of...

But we have had much better sex of late and I have tried to stay away from porn and masturbation. So far, so good.

Do you have mismatched sex drives? That may be part of the solution.
 

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So if you have a mismatch and your wife isn't interested in sex as much as you would like, is there a problem masturbation? Sounds like a survival technique that might keep the resentment down? It's a lot safer than some of the alternatives.
I understand the risks of porn addition, but not everyone turns to the "dark side".
 

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So if you have a mismatch and your wife isn't interested in sex as much as you would like, is there a problem masturbation? Sounds like a survival technique that might keep the resentment down? It's a lot safer than some of the alternatives.
I understand the risks of porn addition, but not everyone turns to the "dark side".
It was definitely a survival mode technique that I implemented as to get off and not have to even think about alternatives. I want to have sex with my wife and wasn't looking around. By jerkin off as much as I did, the urge dissipated and allowed me to go on with my day.
 

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I'd agree with 40... I've posted on this in the past, but in my marriage, I'd watch porn and masturbate daily, sometimes multiple times a day. But it was because sex and intimacy was shut down by my wife.

Now I'm in a relationship with a woman who more closely matches my own drive. She never asked me to give up porn or masturbating, and she doesn't live with me so she'd have no "control" or monitor even if she was concerned. But the only time I watch porn now is with her, and I can count the number of times I've masturbated in the last two years on the fingers of my healed right hand.

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I've masturbated for 40+ years and it never bothered my elbow. But sleeping the wrong way in bed does.

Does porn addiction = problem with masturbation? I guess if he's actually watching porn in bed it might but if he stroked on off without porn, don't see a problem with that (or his elbow).
 

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Well he had a problem of reading erotic stories and masturbating a lot.

He went to therapy and said he was able to stop it. Well, I saw that he's been reading those stories more again and then THIS.

Doctor said that he was too young to have this problem without an "overuse" of the arm. It just seems like that could be an issue.

Question is... Do I ask him about it?

He said that he has not overused it. But he has an inflammed tendon in his arm!



I've masturbated for 40+ years and it never bothered my elbow. But sleeping the wrong way in bed does.

Does porn addiction = problem with masturbation? I guess if he's actually watching porn in bed it might but if he stroked on off without porn, don't see a problem with that (or his elbow).
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No not really. He had an issue for awhile that he just wanted me to help him masturbate instead of actually having sex with me.

So it got very awkward and it was all about him!

Not being allowed to masturbate is a horrible thought to me.
It's kind of like Pray the Gay Away.
Is he having sex with you?
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I guess my advice is don't worry about his arm or what he is doing.

If he is not meeting your sexual needs, then you should make it known that you expect a sexual marriage and will not tolerate a non sexual marriage.
 

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Don't you know men have to...otherwise their balls will rot off? (Yes....I was actually told that by a guy who then proceeded to go into the scientific reasoning behind that claim...)
 

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Don't you know men have to...otherwise their balls will rot off? (Yes....I was actually told that by a guy who then proceeded to go into the scientific reasoning behind that claim...)
My GF is the one that told me regular ejaculations are important for prostate health. It wasn't in my best interests to demand medical proof, so I have no link for you... :)

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