I am a disabled veteran and been married since 2006(we met in 1999). Just here to try and find answers to some martial problems.
Tasorundo, you did it, you are the first to let out the pooch. I hope she keeps to her own business.I would be more curious about these road trips and being gone all day without you or the kid. That seems weird.
Not that her spending massive amounts of money you guys don't have isn't an issue, but why that, why now, and why gone so much.
She has talked about having a can-am for a few years.MV,
You wrote, she came to me crying saying I was going to leave her because she had about 55k of debt from a previous boyfriend.
Was it really from an ex or was that a lie, a lie in the foundation of your marriage?
Was she always into bikes and riding or was this a sudden change in her personality?
The reason I ask is because your details sound alot like a relative of mines step daughter. She got tattoos, bought a motorcycle and leathers, started smoking. As it turned out it was all courtesy of her affair partner who the husband never knew about because he was home babysitting.
There is no safety in riding with "older couples" btw. For an older guy your W is a catch.
So the bike doesn't have saddle bags, and she could leave the bike and phone at said location? Older couple or not makes no difference. Hum....Just wanted to answer a few things I read above from everyone. Also, thank you for taking the time to reply.
- I am certain she is not seeing anyone else as we use an app for the family that tracks everyone. During her road trips when she says shes going to a certain place, it shows that she went there. She also rides with older couples.
- Shes certainly not stuck in the home. Before this she did other hobbies and I have always been supportive of them. In fact, I am supportive of the bike, its just not the right time to purchase or have one.
- I am however concerned of her recent behaviors and like a previous poster had mentioned, I feel like background noise to her.
These mistakes are huge and like I mentioned last night to her, I am not sure I want to go through another few years of paying off her mistakes again.
This whole thing really breaks my heart as I am concerned for our son. Just really confused over this whole thing right now.