I have been with my husband for 3 1/2 years. Married to him for 10 months. Sex life was always constant but not wow. (just thought I was a little freakier than him) My husband always looked at porn, which i knew about and didn't have a problem with. In May of this year I decided to go on our computer and look into what he was looking at (to see what he liked) so that I could try to spice things up. What I found was a smack in the face I never saw coming. Massive amounts of daily porn, adult dating sites, replies to craigslist ads and escort services. I was devastated. I decided to confront him. I was very calm in doing so and started out with asking if he had ever gone outside of our relationship, answer was no. Asked if he had ever been with an escort. Answer was no. No information was admitted me me at all. So then I had to pull out each email that I had found. One by one, then all of a sudden he remembered. He claimed he was embarrassed and he was sorry. He claims he was with one escort but it was before we met. He said he contacted them through email but never went through with anything. He was so sorry. He promises that he has done nothing of the sort since we were married 10 months ago. I was hurt and still am but I know i swept it under the rug. I would periodically check internet history but would find nothing. I continued to have a gut feeling that wouldn't go away. One day I decided to look at a different browser on our computer and there it was, escort sites! Four of them! Not porn sites, but escort and adult discrete dating sites. I confront him, again calmly. Hes says they are pop ups from other sites. He isnt going to them. Again, i let it go under the rug. I continue to look. So last night I pull up the internet cookies since he deletes all of the history now. As I was in the middle of this, opening up all of the sites, one after another he walks in and just looks at me. I calmly look at him and say " you forgot to delete your cookies" and I walked away. He immediately gets upset and angry claiming they are pop up sites that he doesnt go to. (fyi. there are hundreds and they are in the cookies over and over again) Argues that we have been through this already " thousand years ago" ( its been four months ) Screaming at me that I dont trust him and he cant believe I was looking at the cookies. Tells me he cant change it and he has to deal with what his did all the time and if I can"t trust him I need to leave! No consideration for my feeling at all.
I don't have allot of experience with this. All i can go by is my gut feeling. This is not how an innocent husband would react is it? Please give me any advise or share your experience. Sometimes I feel like I am the crazy and paranoid one. Please help......
Thanks.
I don't have allot of experience with this. All i can go by is my gut feeling. This is not how an innocent husband would react is it? Please give me any advise or share your experience. Sometimes I feel like I am the crazy and paranoid one. Please help......
Thanks.