Good morning all. I figured I should consolidate my thread here so I can chronicle what has happened post physical separation.
A quick overview:
- Wife asked for divorce on 10/6/12
- Wife is caught going out with another man on 10/7/12
- She was caught multiple times talking / texting this guy while we still lived in the same house, even after she swore she would not talk to him
- While still living together, I found condoms in her bag
- She was hiding her phone so I could not see conversations between them
- Her grievances are "She was alone for a long time, she wanted a divorce for a while, I neglected her, I stopped opening up about feelings, we grew apart.
- She claimed she wants to go to therapy (for herself), but of course, has not
- My family hates her now.
- Her father hates me
- Her mother is pissed at her, as is her brother. They tell her she is being selfish, a bad mother, a bad wife, etc.
- Her fears about reconciliation are, she is afraid she will get emotionally attached to me again and the changes would not be permanent. She will just be miserable again.
- She moved out of our house on 10/14/12
- I am codependant
- I am a nice guy
- I have met an attorney and got the MSA prepared (as of today 11/7/12, she agrees to it, but has not signed it)
- She believes she is the victim
- The OM is a complete douche......
- The wife is being completely selfish
- The wife chose the OM and a marathon over her dying aunt and her daughters 4th birthday
- She has added the OM to facebook as a friend. I removed her.
- We are completely NC, I told her to only contact me via email or text
So that was a quick update on my situation. I will update this thread going forward.
A quick overview:
- Wife asked for divorce on 10/6/12
- Wife is caught going out with another man on 10/7/12
- She was caught multiple times talking / texting this guy while we still lived in the same house, even after she swore she would not talk to him
- While still living together, I found condoms in her bag
- She was hiding her phone so I could not see conversations between them
- Her grievances are "She was alone for a long time, she wanted a divorce for a while, I neglected her, I stopped opening up about feelings, we grew apart.
- She claimed she wants to go to therapy (for herself), but of course, has not
- My family hates her now.
- Her father hates me
- Her mother is pissed at her, as is her brother. They tell her she is being selfish, a bad mother, a bad wife, etc.
- Her fears about reconciliation are, she is afraid she will get emotionally attached to me again and the changes would not be permanent. She will just be miserable again.
- She moved out of our house on 10/14/12
- I am codependant
- I am a nice guy
- I have met an attorney and got the MSA prepared (as of today 11/7/12, she agrees to it, but has not signed it)
- She believes she is the victim
- The OM is a complete douche......
- The wife is being completely selfish
- The wife chose the OM and a marathon over her dying aunt and her daughters 4th birthday
- She has added the OM to facebook as a friend. I removed her.
- We are completely NC, I told her to only contact me via email or text
So that was a quick update on my situation. I will update this thread going forward.