Hello, i have 2 boys one 12 and another one 18 who graduated from high school this last june. How do i get the 18 year old to understand life is different, for example i bought my 12 year old a halloween costume, the 18 year old see's it and is like can i get one? Um no he is 12, he is still younger and is going to have things still different then u. Then the 18 year old makes me feel guilty. But now already i have helped him with gas money way to much, he does have a job and we agreed he can live with us rent free if he helps around the house and goes to college part time and works, he doesnt have to pay rent but does have to pay car insurance and cell phone bill and gas, then whatever else he wants to buy. I cant get him to even help around the house still, and he acts like it is odd to pay anything extra akready like his cell phone even. How do i get him to understand life and not have it make me feel guilty like i am being mean? Please help!