I have another thread on sep/div but wanted to get to insight here. I have 3 children with my stbxw. She has a posoM and seems to be in a very selfish place. My 12 yr old D has been asking to have a mom/daughter night for weeks but there is always some excuse. picking up shifts for work etc. this week it came to a head in that my d thought she was going to be able to do it No work for stbxw thurs or fri. made no effort thurs and then when asked about friday stbxw said she was going to a movie by herself. D just said ok but you could hear the disappointment in her voice. d texted her about being upset fri with no response. when confronted by d on sat she 1st said she didn't go to a movie then said she did. told d she needed to be more upfront about her feelings she said..it doesn't work all she does is get mad at me....and she lies to me about stuff and I have no idea why. told her I understood about both issues and that I was sorry. is this what happens when people are in a posom fog?...sucks. I feel so bad for my D. she loves her mom so much. was even willing to defend her saying its ok for mom to want to have a night with posOM.