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I have been married for 13 years and have two beautiful kid with my Husband. On February I found out my husband was having an affair (big shock) because this is the month of our Anniversary. I was so devastated that I thought my world was ending anyways to make a long story short like a fool I took him back. Why?? because of the same stupid excuse I thought I would never use ...because I love him and because of the children Anyways since we got back together we never really talked about the affair or dealt with it. I tried one time and all he said was it was stupid and he was only texting this girl and he didn't even know her. That part I believe because I saw the phone records and actually talked to the other woman. I truly believe the contact is over and he is not cheating with her anymore. But what bothers me is since he has been back home I feel like we are more distant from each other. Yea the first couple of weeks he came back we went through the honeymoon stage and we were being intimate a lot. Now that has all disappeared and I feel like I am being neglected. I know he is having a hard time because right now he is having financial hardship because his work hours were cut. but now I feel like I just have a roommate and not a Husband. I brought up that we should go to counseling but he refused so I went by myself to deal with the feelings I had about the affair. Did I mess up because I made it too easy for him to come back?? I feel like he is not in love with me anymore. I know he might care about me because I am the mother of his children but now I am starting to doubt that he even loves me because of what he did. Right now I feel so alone and I know I shouldn't feel this way when I am married to someone. I don't want a divorce but it seems like it might be heading that way especially if things don't change
Any suggestions?? I feel like I am losing my mind here