I have been married almost 10 years and I am really starting to feel like my husband is holding a mistake I made in the past over my head!! About 5 years ago we hit a rough patch financially, my husband left the state to find work and left me behind until he could better provide. Meanwhile with 3 kids I felt to keep up with the bills and no job i had to pawn my wedding ring. I told him that I had done it and wasnt proud but I felt there was nothing left for me to do facing utility **** off. Fast forward to about a year ago things have really turned around for him and we're still together but he is upset because he had to pay to get my ring out of pawn. He says it feels like he bought it twice. For that reason he doesnt wear his ring and will not give mine back or give me a ring to wear. He says that I showed him that the rings didnt mean anything and as far as he's concerned I dont desrve one. We dont have any other problems and our only arguments are usually when I bring up the ring situation. Should I just back off and forget it all and leave well enough alone or do I have a right to expect that we wear rings. His stubborness in the matter makes me thinks hes trying to be controlling knowing how it hurts me and I was very apologetic, I dont understand his position if he says we've moved on. He said that I can go buy my own ring or I can buy my band back from him but still he refuses to give me the engagement ring ever again.