OK, so the title isn't descriptive, but here's the situation.
I went into a local bar about 9 days ago to grab a late dinner and a few beers. One of the bartenders smiled at me and I didn't think much of it since she worked there. Casual and perfectly expected from an employee to a customer. Two days later, I went back for some beer, and she again was not my bartender but stopped to talk to me again, even mentioning that I should come more often. We chatted a good bit later that night.
Now, I am not at all good at reading body language (borderline incapable when it pertains to me) but I definitely got the sense she was interested in me. What's more, I *can* actually quite easily read other people, and watching her interactions with her coworkers I got the definite impression at least they thought she was interested. I was there two more times after that (Monday and Tuesday) and we again talked a good bit. She definitely remembered almost everything that I told her, which I don't think you would do for a random customer.
Last night, I went in with the intent of asking her out. I should say that I did notice that she seemed friendly and even flirty with other customers, but also guarded. In any case, when I was in the process of asking her to do something, she more or less interrupted and asked me if I wanted to do something (tomorrow at this point). I said yes, we exchanged numbers, and I went on my way. Now at this point, I was assuming interest. We talked this morning and figured out what we were doing tomorrow. A few hours ago, I got a text saying that she didn't want to send the wrong message and that she wasn't looking for a boyfriend. While I personally don't really believe two single people can be friends for any length of time if there is any attraction, she said that she does. OK, fair enough.
Here's my question: what is *really* going on? Either she's telling the truth and she accidentally sent a lot of messages or, as I am wondering, had second thoughts for whatever reason. Why isn't important, of course, but what is more logical? It doesn't take long for any sort of doubt to creep in. Don't get me wrong, I will simply ask her tomorrow (subtlety is not my strong point), but I did wonder if this was a common occurrence.
I went into a local bar about 9 days ago to grab a late dinner and a few beers. One of the bartenders smiled at me and I didn't think much of it since she worked there. Casual and perfectly expected from an employee to a customer. Two days later, I went back for some beer, and she again was not my bartender but stopped to talk to me again, even mentioning that I should come more often. We chatted a good bit later that night.
Now, I am not at all good at reading body language (borderline incapable when it pertains to me) but I definitely got the sense she was interested in me. What's more, I *can* actually quite easily read other people, and watching her interactions with her coworkers I got the definite impression at least they thought she was interested. I was there two more times after that (Monday and Tuesday) and we again talked a good bit. She definitely remembered almost everything that I told her, which I don't think you would do for a random customer.
Last night, I went in with the intent of asking her out. I should say that I did notice that she seemed friendly and even flirty with other customers, but also guarded. In any case, when I was in the process of asking her to do something, she more or less interrupted and asked me if I wanted to do something (tomorrow at this point). I said yes, we exchanged numbers, and I went on my way. Now at this point, I was assuming interest. We talked this morning and figured out what we were doing tomorrow. A few hours ago, I got a text saying that she didn't want to send the wrong message and that she wasn't looking for a boyfriend. While I personally don't really believe two single people can be friends for any length of time if there is any attraction, she said that she does. OK, fair enough.
Here's my question: what is *really* going on? Either she's telling the truth and she accidentally sent a lot of messages or, as I am wondering, had second thoughts for whatever reason. Why isn't important, of course, but what is more logical? It doesn't take long for any sort of doubt to creep in. Don't get me wrong, I will simply ask her tomorrow (subtlety is not my strong point), but I did wonder if this was a common occurrence.
