Help me! Sexless in Marriage and/or a Sex Addict

You just feel like a sex addict because you are always being made to feel that way. Let me guess, you try and get denied 9 times out of 10? Seems to me that if I try it doesn't matter if I try once a month, it would take 10 months before anything happens. If I tried daily it would take 10 days. I think the mind of the LD person applies a resistance factor and in some twisted way actually thinks they have denied only once or twice. They also think their excuses seem totally reasonable. I get denied even hugging because of period pain. That's how crazy it gets. Sometimes it pisses me off to no end mostly because of how insulting it is to my intelligence.

Back to the question. No, you have normal sex drive. Unfortunately, you need to carry the burden of being oppressed, taking on the guilt of the other party and making them feel good for not wanting it and, feeling like you are the sick one. Pretty sick huh?

First thing to do is start taking care of yourself but please don't cheat. See the pattern here, when the SO does not want sex, then you get screwed every which way and it would not be in your favor if you choose to cheat!

I just started changing my behavior. Let me give an example, I have been treating my wife very well by obliging her every wish - wants to quit work - so let it be I say. Wants me to help with kids - so let it be. Wants to not make dinner - so let it be. Wants to get a maid - so let it be. Wants me to come home on time every night - so let it be. Wants me to do laundry - so let it be. Ok get the picture. Wants to have sex a few times a year. So let it be. Wants to no longer hug - are you f'ing insane - no f'ing way.

By now (especially after listing all if this out) she has taken it way to far. Other night and tonight I told her to get up out of bed and hug her kids good night and to give me a massage. If she does not starter ring it be for me I am going to start taking steps to separation and let it be known. I will do this diplomatically and let it be known why I am doing it. I will not over emphasize anything as she is pretty smart but enough is enough. There is really no reason to emphasize get mad yell or anything. The most important thing is to say / indicate clearly your plans and then start taking action step by step. Let her figure out if she wants stop it and there is only one way to stop which is find some means to fix yourself.

I think it is insane for a partner to think it is ok that their sex drive is low - she tells me this is normal and you know what, it is, but it is also normal to go get help after a while. The thing is don't f over a nice guy - that is plain stupidity - I am not a nice guy and moron at the same time are you?
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