I'm in a bad mood today because my wife and I are in a similar spot, so I say 'divorce her.' What is it about women, that they want comfort and support, security and normalcy, then come to take it for granted, then get bored with it?
In Deep- not all women are that way. I am sorry that there are many married women who seem to be "getting bored" and looking elsewhere- it never crossed my mind that routine and security was a bad thing- I truly am grateful for every day that i have that is secure. I am on the other end of the stick. I could generalize all men by my husband's "typical" cheating- but I know too many devoted men who truly love their families to think that all men are cheaters. Honestly- I'm beginning to think that the women are tipping the scales toward them being more apt to cheat. I'm no better than any one else- not by far. I don't cheat because i truly love my husband (as foolish as I probably am) and I'm a loyal person- to a fault sometimes.
Beef- i think that if you are suspicious and you aren't getting your answers from her- look at her emails, text messages, etc.... seems like she's "running the show" here- and that's not what marriage is- no one should have complete control of the whole thing. I hope that things work out for both of you. But you deserve answers, and whatever you find, don't jump to conclusions, but definitely talk it out with her.
All the best