I am a married mother of 4. I have been with my husband for 29 years, we have been married 19 years. My husband and I have gone through quite of few ups and downs, starting with some issues with his mother. He is a mamma's boy but he has tried to not let that come between us. We have had some hick-ups but overall worked through them. I also come from a huge family of 9. It is extremely dysfunctional and toxic. The first 4 girls and 3 boys are my half siblings and the last sister is my full. We have had some serious issues all our lives and that has caused strain from my husband and I as we are always trying to help the others with no common courtesy for our own life and I had to end our relationship with them after my mom passed last year because it became to toxic and trying that I couldn't stay focused with my own little family. My husband had a heart attack 16 years ago when he was 30. This really caused a shift in our marriage. At this time we almost came to separating because he was allowing his mother's toxic ways interfere with his healing and it was causing him a lot of stress, when he did not need that at the time. But after some long deep conversations, he realized that he needs to do what is best for him and not allow his mother's choice of life style overshadow his life. This has worked, she tries to meddle in our life but he squashes it almost instantly. Now that we have kids, things have shifted again. I know life is going to be a roller coaster but I just want to make sure we don't derail from the track we wanted our family to take. We are struggling in our marriage again because we are butting heads at what should or shouldn't be a factor when it comes to the kids' discipline. Other than that I feel we are good. I am here to seek advice to make sure he and I can continue our life with an open mind and common courtesy for each other and the kids so that our ride can be very fulfilling and happy together.