Going through very hard times I’m my marriage. My wife had an affair and Dday was about 3 weeks ago. There have been ups and downs since then but the other day I made the situation much worse by scaring and putting my hands on my wife. I was arrested and now have a protection order against me. I didn’t punch her or leave any bruises but I become way too intimidating and psychical. I didn’t think I was capable of such behavior. Now my best friend is gone and I feel like I’m drowning.