What a crock of ****. Where do you live that a simple divorce would give HER 100% of everything, and you 0%? I'd really like to know because it obviously isn't the US.Even if I don’t hit her and she files for divorce I lose it all. Marraige really is a lose lose for men.
Bill Burr is a god. However, I don't have a problem at ALL when my husband is having a good time doing something he enjoys. I don't even understand that type of sick mentality, begrudging your spouse some joy in life. Your wife sounds like a real peach.I remember watching this bit by Bill Burr. Women hate it when their men have fun without them. It’s so true. My wife hates it when I’m doing my own thing or having fun without her. She gets even more upset if I look bored when I’m out with her. It’s not my fault I hate hours and hours of mindless shopping.
So what? She supposedly asks for your OPINION, not an iron-clad instruction she HAS to follow just because it came from you.My biggest peeve is she never listens to me yet says I don’t speak up enough. How many of you guys go through this? They want your opinion, you think about it and tell them but they do the exact opposite of whay you told them.
Nooooooo...there's apparently no middle ground with your WIFE. Do you know how ridiculous you sound trying to convince everyone that your wife's shortcomings are also the shortcomings of every female on this planet? Why, I didn't know you were omniscient and able to speak for the entire female gender.Seriously there’s no middle ground with women.
Not sure if you're just here to complain about women or actually seek advice since you only wanted to talk to men.I’m trying my best to just go through the motions and avoid getting into any arguments with her. I try and spot the triggers and avoid them, try to look happy and interested but it takes alot of mental alertness and it takes alot out of me. I just don’t know what to do anymore.
Thank you!You are approaching the 7 year itch time in your marriage. For some reason a lot of couples have this sort of problem.
Wow! You guys need help. To paraphrase From the move “Cool Handed Luke”what we have here is a failure to communicate.
Are you mistaking calmness for indifference? Or smugness?Was having a bad day and needed a rant. Knew I should have stuck to a men’s only forum. No I’m not a misogynist but then again anything can be construed as misogyny these days. Yea I know it’s wrong to hit people and I’m working on the anger issues, I started going to a group meeting and I have taken up MMA to learn how to manage my anger. It really does help.
I’m not sure how to communicate with her anymore. Like for eg yesterday I tried to cheer her up by cracking a joke to make light of a bad situation and she just starts going off on me. I felt hurt at her rebuke but instead of shouting back and escalating the problem I just walk away, do my breathing exercises and calmed myself down. But she wouldn’t stop and attacks me again bringing up **** that happened years ago.
I try my best to stay calm and I do, I don’t rise to the bait and I keep breathing and focusing on a calming image. But my calmness infuriates her even more and she keeps at it. Left with no choice I leave the house and remove myself from the situation. I stayed at my friend’s place last night.
A part of me wants to try and salvage the relationship another part of me wants to end it. Seriously I’m at a cross roads.
What I said earlier.....failure to communicate. You guys should consider marriage counseling if you want to make this marriage work. Otherwise, it is time to throw in the towel and part ways.I’m not sure how to communicate with her anymore. Like for eg yesterday I tried to cheer her up by cracking a joke to make light of a bad situation and she just starts going off on me. I felt hurt at her rebuke but instead of shouting back and escalating the problem I just walk away, do my breathing exercises and calmed myself down. But she wouldn’t stop and attacks me again bringing up **** that happened years.
Partner, presently folk here are asking for more info to tailor responses, and sharing views and different perspectives.What is it with you people? I wasn’t being smug just keeping my cool and trying not to escalate the problem. She was the one screaming at me. Why is it my fault for not losing my temper? Women are just as capable of being mean and abusive. Enough of the white knight bs. I though this forum would be helpful. Obviously not. Adios.