That is correct!Thank You all for the kind answers you gave me, I truly appreciate all of them and I recognize that I don't have enough love for myself.
About the suggestion not to go deeper with the new guy, I guess it is a little but late, he already introduced me to his Family and now he is telling to everyone that he will marry me, some time I got angry for this.
One more suggestions please, so both of them are not good for me??
Good. Please don't step towards the alter. Marriage is not the answer here. You will be even more miserable than you are now.Yes I am ready to move my steps.
I agree with this, but you can't very well stop buying him groceries when he's eating in your home or refuse to pay for his meal when you are paying for yours, because the restaurant isn't going to be good with him walking out with you and one of you not paying. Again, really good idea, but start with something that you can actually control.So the best thing for you to do is to take STEPS. Small steps. Pick one step at a time and DO that step - consistently - until it feels natural and right. Any step you take to change the status quo is going to be scary at first, but once you start doing it consistently, it will build up your self esteem and reduce your fear about standing up for yourself.
So, what steps? There are several you could take, but I recommend one simple one first: stop spending your money on your boyfriend. This is crucial to untangling yourself from him and his manipulation and guilt. It will create an awareness that you are no longer going to be his wallet.
This is a very good start.I read with all interest your kind reply and I started to practice. I will not pay anymore for anything for him and now he stops also his driving lessons and me I don't care anymore to push him. Now I will get one small kitten.
Yesterday like usual he left his dirty clothes on the bedroom instead of putting g in the basket like I usually told him and me I did one thing...I throw this two clothes, I am not his servant.
Today I went out with some friends and I didn't told anything to him.
His Family keeps on writing me but me I don't reply or if I do I just say hello
Yes. I agree. Counselling is required.Danyy, WHY? Why do you think about going to ANY man?
You don't need a man, Danyy. It's clear you can take care of yourself, buy your own home, furnish it, feed yourself.
Why do you 'need' a man?
Work on yourself. Find a therapist and start going until you learn to love and value yourself. Stay away from men. PLEASE.