Hi, I'm here looking for opinions on my marriage. My wife and I are both 36, married 11 years. We have two kids, ages 5 and 9. I believe she is extremely selfish. Our sex life has decreased to once or maybe twice a month. She "promises" sex and and then will fall asleep in the kids bed in an effort to avoid me. I don't want to divorce but I'm growing increasingly frustrated and unhappy.