Yea, my wife and I do not seek out passwords and we do not feel the need to dig around each other's cell phones. We look more at long term effects than what we'd get seeking instant gratification. We just simply refuse to "babysit" one another.Thank you for the welcome!
I think what bothers me about asking for his passwords and sharing mine, is that it makes me feel like we are parenting one another...and that we feel a sense of ownership over one another. That's just not me. Even if he cheated, I wouldn't want him anymore. I'm not competing with other women for my future husband's attention, if he someday ends up cheating, we are done. And cheating is a deal breaker for him, too. I just can't imagine snooping on his phone and social media accounts looking to see if he is carrying on with other women. I don't want to be in a relationship that lacks trust like that.
This is true, and thank you.
I appreciate everyone's welcome here!
Feeling that you need to "parent" your spouse "just in case" has just got to be an absolute terrible way to live in marriage.
Marriage is about companionship, not ownership.
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